Truly strong people speak a special, healthy language that combines confidence and modesty in the right proportion. Their speech is genuine, comes from the heart, and therefore inspires other people to do business. If you want to become more influential – never use these 7 marker phrases for weak people and losers.
1. "Because we always do that!"
You are unlikely to see a truly strong person who spends time defending the status quo. On the contrary, these people boldly ask the question "Why?". They are ready to do things that no one has done before them. They are ready to apply new methods and technologies. They always push what they're doing to the next level and aren't afraid to crash their ship into rocks if they need to get past those rocks.
2. "Frankly…"
Have you ever heard anyone say that in an attempt to be more transparent? Strong people know that phrases like "to be honest" – this is a waste of words, instilling in others only doubts about their honesty. "If he now 'speaks honestly' and emphasizes this, can he be trusted in the other 99.9% of the cases when he does not use such expressions?" – such is the way of thinking of people next to you. Strong people emphasize that they are telling the truth (or what sounds like the truth) always and everywhere, without using introductory or conditional expressions. For this they are loved or hated – but definitely appreciated.
3. "It's not my problem…"
Strong people don't avoid problems. They like to feel a challenge at any time of the day and are able to turn it into a solution. They do not shy away from responsibility, but accept it with the words "it's my business" or "I'll figure it out." They show willingness to be responsible for themselves and others – and this gives the bulk of the people the basis and opportunity to shift the burden of their own responsibility to the elect, who are called "strong".
4. "He's so (any insult)!"
You will never hear a strong man speak evil of others. They just don't have the gossip gene in their DNA. If they treat someone negatively and show intemperance – it means they show their own weakness and susceptibility to petty emotions. The influence of a strong leader on others is only as great as how well they treat each person every minute. Don't forget about it.
5. "I'm so tired of …"
Strong people avoid complaints like a deadly virus. They know it's – a waste of words that robs people of strength. Whenever they are tempted to complain, they instead come up with a way out of the situation they find themselves in. "If you don't like something in life – change it or adapt, but don't whine!" – here is the rule of the strong.
6. "I work alone"
In today's world, everything is connected. Strong people understand and use this. They maximize the effect of their own efforts by working WITH PEOPLE and THROUGH the people around them. They are not afraid to admit that they do not know something (it is impossible to know everything), to ask for advice or help, especially if they are in charge. They don't let pride get in their way – and this creates the basis for a strong trust in others around them. They skillfully use the advantages of teamwork, and are familiar with the concept of synergy, when the energy of the whole team becomes greater than the sum of the components – the energy of each team member.
7. "That's impossible!"
It's strange, but some of us love to utter such phrases with a look of doom, reveling in the funeral of our own dreams. In contrast, strong people have built a psychological immunity against doubt. They realize that if every person who came up with a great idea followed the bad advice to "leave it", we would live in a very different, much worse world. Therefore, the strong do not surrender to life circumstances and do not let everything take its course. They do not set limits on their own influence, realizing that it is almost limitless. They change everything they can to improve their surroundings as much as possible and adapt to unchanging conditions. Strong people are ready to conquer the impossible and live by the principle "I can!".
Rehabilitate your mentality. Try to remove these expressions from your speech – and then out of your thoughts. By eliminating the thoughts that are characteristic of losers, you will become more influential, more successful and stronger.
Source estet-portal.com
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