Neurotic man: top 5 ways to understand that "something is wrong" with your partner

A loved one is upset and depressed, overreacts to every little thing? It is logical to assume that he is just having a difficult period, after all, which of us is not in a bad mood. But if you notice that such behavior is the norm rather than the exception, you should think: maybe your man — neurotic?

Should continue a relationship with or is it better to run away before too late? How to notice the first signs of neurosis in time and to make the right decision, we will tell in this article.

• What is neuroticism and what causes it occurs
• The main signs of a neurotic man: learning to identify
• Relationship with neurotic: leave or that's all stay

What is neuroticism and what causes it occurs

First, let's get some terminology out of the way. Many people confuse neuroticism and  neurosis, although these are different concepts. Neurosis — this is a psychogenic disorder, and neuroticism — personality trait. That is, this is not a disease, not a temporary condition provoked by external factors, but such a feature of the psyche.

The neurotic is very sensitive to  bad things;

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The appearance of neurotic character traits is associated with both features of growing up, and with personality type. For example, a boy in childhood is subject to excessive demands (“come on, you’re a man, hit back / play football / get up and fight”) or scolded for showing emotions (“what are you whining like girl"). As an adult, he will be hard to experience any failure, fixate on               s                suffering   is angry with himself for such a reaction. Also, the type of temperament is determined by a genetic predisposition, if a boy — melancholic, then in the future he is more likely to become neurotic.

The modern world makes a lot of demands on men, starting from their earliest childhood. Conforming to gender stereotypes is so difficult, and even more so in the crazy pace of life of the 21st century. Not surprisingly, a neurotic man is no longer a rarity. Distinguishing neuroticism from a bad temper or typical behavior in a stressful situation is difficult, but possible. The main thing is to know which features of

behavior to pay attention to.

The main signs of a neurotic man: learning to identify

Perhaps the most important sign that you are a neurotic — the appearance of an obsessive thought "something is wrong." Your partner cannot give a sense of security, as he himself is afraid of everything and expects a dirty trick from everywhere. It is difficult to hide this, and therefore a neurotic man "transmits" your fear is close. If in his presence the world suddenly becomes hostile and dangerous, and the feeling of carelessness and joy disappears — neuroticism is present. In addition, in  psychology there are several more markers that indicate  emotional instability.

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1. Inability to improvise. A neurotic man is afraid and avoids any non-standard situations in which you need to think on the go and adapt to changing rules. Increased anxiety takes a lot of energy, so the usual algorithm of actions — a vital necessity for such people.

2. Unwillingness to make plans. Life is so complicated and unpredictable, dangers lurk at every turn, where to think about the future. To besides deep down the neurotic is sure that it will definitely not work out what he conceived, he is so unlucky.

3. Total control. If your man calls  several times a day with  how are you», this does mean that he suspects you of treason. Most likely he just wants to make sure that everything is in order, as his imagination has already painted a bunch of gloomy pictures.

4. Exaggerating your mistakes. Increased sensitivity to & nbsp; negativity does not allow the neurotic to admit the thought "well wrong, it nobody happens". On the contrary, he will exaggerate the scale of his mistake, wait for a sharp reaction from the people around him.

5. No adventurism. Fear of the unknown and pessimism do not allow the neurotic to tempt fate. Such a man is not capable of impulsive decisions, because they can lead to new problems, and the old to deal with would.

 

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Each of these signs of non can be considered as unambiguously indicating neuroticism. In the end, mild anxiety and low self-esteem are common to many people. But if your man fits all these descriptions, you need to think: are you ready to connect your

fate with neurotic.

Relationship with neurotic: leave or still stay

Despite negative connotation and prejudice, male neuroticism is not and so terrible. If you expect exploits, romantic impulses, the ability to dominate command from your beloved, then, yes, a neurotic man is not your hero. But if                   the their thing to you value stability in relationships, perhaps your union will be successful. Finally, neurotics:

• Adjust better to life. The habit of looking for a catch in everything and being on your guard play a good role in cases when everything goes wrong.

• Smart. Constant analysis of the situation and the search for ways out develop critical thinking, make you search and process a large amount of information.

• Responsible. The desire to avoid unforeseen situations makes such men control every little thing and play it safe, which is sometimes very useful.

• Prudent. Neurotic people value their friends and relatives, those people next to whom they feel safe. Therefore, they express their disposition to them in every possible way, they are attentive to their spiritual comfort.

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Of course, you also need to understand the fact that there is only one step from neuroticism to neurosis. Constant background anxiety weakens the protective properties of the psyche and at some unfavorable moment a breakdown is possible. Do not become an additional stress factor, create a calm and comfortable atmosphere at home, and a neurotic man will thank you with sincere love and fidelity.

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