It is easier to prevent a disease than to treat it. This golden aphorism is ideally suited to the field of human relationships. The simple human everyday life that makes up the life of each of us contains many responsibilities, a long list of tasks and everyday stresses. That is why sometimes we so easily neglect our partner or take his or her love and care for granted. But that special bond that unites us with the person who means so much to us needs to be nurtured and maintained, and home preventive family therapy can help us strengthen relationships and get through difficulties together.
We offer some very effective therapeutic home exercises that will help your connection become closer, closer and stronger:
List of valuables
This is actually one of the most effective family therapy exercises to do at home. During the week, both of you write down one thing each day, done by the other partner, which is very valuable to you. It doesn't have to be something grand, maybe it's something cute and small, but it means a lot to you. For example, a small bouquet of flowers, a kindly changed TV channel, or your favorite dinner cake. At the end of the week, exchange notes – the amount of kindness in your world will instantly and significantly increase.
Regular washing
Just as we soil our clothes with daily wear, our relationships are soiled by unspoken hurts and minor annoyances that arise in the course of interaction. Once a week, ask your partner to tell you about things that made him or her feel unappreciated, unloved, or disrespected by you. At first, you may be told that everything is in order. Try to dig deeper. Listen carefully to what they tell you. Try to understand and draw conclusions.
Entertainment Rating
Definitely, there are many fun things you would like to do with your partner. Just make a list and do it every month (or every week), crossing off one item from the cherished list. Enjoy each other's company and discover new common interests you didn't even know existed. For ideas, see our article on spontaneity in relationships.
Make up differences before you go to bed
Try to resolve all disagreements before you go to bed, because unresolved quarrels breed frustration and resentment. If you allow these feelings to settle in your soul for a long time, they poison relationships and kill happiness. Just make it a point to resolve all disputes the same day they start, focusing on finding a solution that is acceptable to both of you.
Signs of love
Write 5 things your partner does or has already done to show you that he loves you. This will help you to better notice the silent daily manifestation of the feelings of your spouse. Most of these things – small and simple, but they indicate that you are really important to your partner.
Hour of Frankness
You can try to practice the revelation hour in family therapy, when you and your partner talk to each other about your attitude to a certain phenomenon, person or object, having absolute immunity – that is, without any judgment or judgment. Such a practice will teach you to be honest and frank with each other, to be more considerate and respectful of the opinion of the other, without taking too much on your own account.
Building Intimacy
Seclude yourself with your loved one in a room that is not your bedroom. Make sure no one bothers you – put the kids to bed, turn off the phone, and just sit across from each other with your knees almost touching. Stop for a minute or more, looking into each other's eyes. Be aware of your thoughts, reactions, emotions, feelings. Then share them with each other. This exercise promotes intimacy that is so often lost in running and busy days. It helps to tune in to the partner's inner world and come to terms with yourself.
If your relationship is not going well, it is very important to find a solution to the problem and a path to recovery. However, prevention and hygiene in the matter of personal relationships – a much more reliable and less energy-intensive road to happiness and harmony.
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