Sex during menstruation – one of the most sensitive and taboo intimate topics in society. There are few similar ones to which there would be such a contradictory and ambiguous attitude both on the part of women and men. And if the stronger sex for the most part refers to similar manifestations of physiology and sexual intercourse during the "red days"; quite calmly (although there are different cases, of course), then with women everything is much more complicated. Many ladies would be happy to indulge in passion "with evidence at the crime scene", but a lot of stereotypes in their heads prevent them from relaxing and doing it.
Let's, together with estet-portal.com, sort out the numerous myths surrounding sex during menstruation, and separate the wheat from the chaff – that is, the truth from the stereotypes imposed by society.
Myths and realities of sex during menstruation – Is it harmful or beneficial?
If you understand the topic thoroughly, it turns out that most of the myths surrounding the "impure" sex in society, incline men and women to the fact that sex during menstruation should not be done – supposedly it is disgusting, dirty (in every sense) and harmful, no matter how you look at it.
However, at the same time, many ladies, on the contrary, note these days a surge of libido and a burning desire to seduce their beloved here and now, but nature could not be mistaken?
For a long time, the roots of the public attitude to such sexual contacts as to the forbidden fruit have been growing out of religious considerations. In classical religions (Muslim, Judaism, Christianity), the opinion was actively promoted that in the "critical" days a woman is not clean. She was forbidden, for example, to visit temples, and her husband was forbidden to sleep with her during this period, so as not to become “not clean” himself. At the same time, not a single theologian has tried to explain why what is given to women by nature itself for the possibility of conception and the birth of a new life (which in itself is considered sacred) is considered dirty and disgusting. Can't – and that's it!
Fortunately, in our era of feminism and emancipation, religious dogmas in most countries of the world are no longer so strong, but the archetypes in the subconscious of women, passed down from generation to generation, turned out to be much more tenacious.
According to sociological studies of Western scientists, women avoid sex during menstruation twice as often as men.
The main reason – representatives of the tender half of humanity are afraid to disappoint their partners with the "low" ones; physiological manifestations, scare them away, spoil the moment of excitement for your halves.
Let's go through the main myths of sex during menstruation
- Myth: When having sex on "red days" it is very easy to catch infections.
True: There is some truth in this. During menstruation, the cervix dilates slightly to facilitate the passage of blood and mucus. And the neck – this is a very defenseless and delicate part of the female body, because (unlike the vagina) it is devoid of protective mucus, which contains antibodies. That is, it is easier for pathogenic organisms that provoke inflammatory processes and the development of infections to penetrate into the "holy of holies". lady's body.
But! Nobody canceled condoms. Gynecologists admit that "rubber" serves as a reliable barrier to any infection. In addition, condoms will also protect the man's penis from blood staining, if one of the couple is very concerned about this aesthetic moment.
- Myth: During menstruation, women become indifferent to sex.
True: Absolutely not true! The basics of biology seem to teach us that the peak of a burst of female libido falls on ovulation, and the maximum decline – for menstrual days. Allegedly, this is how the natural mechanism of procreation works, since conception is most likely in the middle of the menstrual cycle and least likely during the release of the egg from the body.
But how then to explain that so many women admit that, on the contrary, during menstruation they feel a great desire to have violent and unrestrained sex (unless, of course, they are not tormented by a tough and painful form of PMS)?
Actually, everything is explained very simply. During this period, blood actively flows to the pelvic organs, the uterus, which rejects the mucous membrane, becomes as sensitive as possible – as well as the walls of the vagina, which swell a little during menstruation. All this contributes to very fast arousal, more thrills from the penetration itself, faster achievement of orgasm, which can also be more intense than usual.
- Myth: on the "red days of the calendar" impossible to get pregnant.
True: Alas, as much as we all would like to, we are forced to disappoint – quite possible. True, this happens in rare cases, but how do you know that you will not fall into the same percentage of exceptions to the rule.
This can happen when the menstrual cycle is unstable (and only a few girls can boast of its stability in our time), as well as with a short cycle. For example, with a cycle of 21-25 days, ovulation occurs shortly after menstruation, and active spermatozoa are able to live in the female body for several days in anticipation of a “date”; with an ovum.
So the method of protection by calculating conditionally safe days of the calendar cannot be considered a full-fledged contraception.
- Myth: Sex during menstruation relieves a woman's pain.
True: For the most part, this is true. The exception is women with very heavy and painful periods, who sometimes even have to take strong painkillers and stay in bed for several days. However, they should be treated by an experienced gynecologist and not by a sexual partner.
In other cases it is useful – the slight analgesic effect of sex is considered scientifically proven.
There is a combined effect here:
- muscles that contract and then relax (especially after orgasm) help to relieve pain spasm,
- excitement and active actions distract from the very thought of pain (and everything, as you know, lives in our head),
- active production during sex of the hormones endorphin and oxytocin (the so-called hormones of happiness) relieves pain and improves the general condition and mood.
As you can see, there are more pluses to sex during menstruation than minuses. However, it is worth doing it only if both partners want it and do not feel discomfort.
And if you want intimacy these days, but are afraid to scare your partner away, then maybe you should just talk frankly with him? His refusal will not change anything in the existing situation, but it may well turn out that your fears were far-fetched, and he does not even mind.
If yes, then don't forget to stock up on dark bedding or towels (and wet wipes)! Or you can immediately proceed to the shower room and merge in love ecstasy where there are traces of "crime" will immediately be washed away with streams of water. Passionate intimacy to you!
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