8 Steps From Casual to Serious Relationships

Every relationship is unique. But what unites them all – this is a transitional period from entering into a relationship to their more serious stage. And this is a very important period, since it is on it that his future fate is determined. Therefore, today the editors of Estet-portal have prepared for you some simple tips that will help you not only push a man to take more serious steps in a relationship, but also determine the seriousness of your intentions yourself. We have outlined the steps that must be taken on the threshold of a serious relationship.

Step 1. Make sure you really want it

Does it seem to you that you want a serious relationship with this particular man? Before taking any action, it is worth making sure of this. Take a step back and ask yourself questions:

• Am I having fun with this man?
• Does my mood lift when I'm with him?
• Do I feel good on my own when we part?
• Does it make my life better? Do I feel respect from him?

If a man is too jealous or checks your every action, it is better to stay away from him. You should also not specifically convince yourself that he is a good person, because he did nothing wrong. Just a "good guy" – not enough reason to forge a serious relationship with him.   Healthy Relationships – those in which you feel good with yourself, and with him – much better.

Step 2: Avoid "serious conversation"

This seems counter-intuitive, but the first advice from – never start a "who-we-are-for-a-friend" conversation. It's like going to a party, turning off the music, turning on the lights and saying, "We're having a good time here, aren't we?" The right relationship is built on impulses, and stop the fun to "test" – surefire way to kill romance. Let things unfold naturally and look at the real evidence:

• Does he want to see you whenever he is free?
• Is he genuinely interested in what you have to say?
• Does your meetings bring him the same pleasure as you do?

These are –  possible signs that he is really interested in you. So enjoy the fact that you are around, and relax about the thought of transferring the relationship into an official channel.

Man – especially one who is wary of obligations & nbsp; & ndash; & nbsp; it is necessary to feel that he independently, without pressure from outside, made the decision to be with you. Otherwise, he will feel trapped in a cage, and his only desire will be to escape.

Step 3: Clarify things a bit

But you shouldn't wander in the dark of conjectures either. If you've been dating for six months and he hasn't given you a single hint of how he sees your relationship, it's still worth gently pushing him into the conversation. For example, if you want him to meet your parents, ask if he could have dinner with them next Friday. At the same time, make it clear that nothing terrible will happen if it suddenly turns out that he is not yet ready for such a step. Above all, be positive and open to communication and don't push it into a corner.  If you are sure that you have an exact picture of what you want, you can directly tell him about it. Explain what kind of relationship you want and why. Define what commitment means to you, but don't give ultimatums. If he is not ready to answer you something right now, put off continuing the conversation for a few weeks. However, if he stubbornly refuses to respond again and again, it may be time to rethink the relationship. You have to decide what you want more: a man who is ready to commit to you,  or this particular guy, even if he will never be ready for them.

Step 4. Let your altruism shine

Spending Saturday mornings at the hospital or helping your neighbor's grandmother bring groceries home may lead him to call you "his girlfriend".  According to the latest research by British psychologists, people rate potential sexual partners as more attractive to create long-term relationships if they have altruistic qualities. Your ability to give yourself shows your kindness and integrity. It is by manifestations of kindness and selflessness that men unconsciously evaluate what kind of mother this woman is capable of becoming in the future.

There's no need to volunteer at a homeless shelter just to impress him. This is unfair to say the least. Small actions in your daily life & nbsp; & ndash; & nbsp; from offering a place in line to a woman with a child to walking with your elderly neighbor's dog & ndash; it's something worth making a part of your  life on a regular basis. In no case do not expose them for show, but also do not hide your actions from your loved one when you are near him.

Step 5. Get creative to get closer

Think of something more for dates than just dinner and clubbing. Good date – the one that makes you stop chatting on Facebook, put your phone down and drown in each other. Sometimes it's worth trying something non-trivial that takes you slightly outside of your usual comfort zone. Go to a homebrew or craft festival, see a local rock band perform, or go rollerblading in the park. A new adventure enriches with joint impressions that can be remembered in the future. This strengthens the bond between you and increases the likelihood that he will seek to continue dating you.  In addition, you can learn a lot from what idea for the next date he comes up with. For example, if he invites you to visit the Pinchuk Art Center, hoping that you, for a lover of contemporary art,  this will bring the same pleasure as the exhibition at the Mystetsky Arsenal last week – he obviously wants to please you, which is a good sign.

Step 6. Add intrigue

Even if you're looking forward to his call, you don't have to be available every time he wants to see you.  Do you want to be something worth investing in? So let him realize your value! If you are always waiting for him, he will have no need to woo you. Add some  intrigue to your schedule, make it want more. Wait a few minutes before replying to the message, or if he asks if you're free on Tuesday, say you have other plans but would be happy to meet him on Wednesday. This will let him know that your time is valuable, and he will have to try hard to "steal" you. However, don't play around. Don't move dates too far – this may be too much to deceive the expectations of a man with an equally busy schedule,

Step 7: Stay Independent

And not only his own, but also his. It's so tempting – sacrifice a part of yourself if you finally met the Man of your dreams. However, no sacrifice is needed. Trying to be someone you are not is so transparent and boring to a man. Better have your own interests and show him how interesting your life is – with or without it. You should be like a car flying at a speed that he really wants to jump into, and not like a dejectedly standing and waiting rattletrap in the parking lot.  Keep up your long weekend runs, even if he wants to be lazy. And don't expect or blame him to miss a football match to meet you. A man appreciates a woman who has autonomy and rich reality. The more he becomes convinced that your life is fantastically interesting,

Step 8. Show your feelings

There's a fine line between playing "hard to get" stuff and showing complete indifference. When you are having dinner somewhere together, do not constantly check your phone and do not shoot your eyes at the restaurant hall. This is a date. One on one. Listen to him, understand him, let him see your interest in what he has to say. Ask about what is happening in his life. Show how much he means to you. A man appreciates and wants to be with someone who makes him feel amazing. And if you – the one who managed to turn his world upside down, which made him feel like the smartest, strongest and most amazing, he will love just being next to you and is unlikely to agree to exchange you for someone else. And yet, having understood this, he will definitely want to voice the choice made. In your favor.