The love of two is always determined by that physical attraction that is impossible to resist. However, even on such a short path — from threshold to bed — You can make a lot of fatal mistakes. And we are not talking about the notorious sex on the first date, although it is he, according to scientists, that destroys tender feelings.
But the same pundits warn: excessive activity in sex also inevitably leads to divorce. And a modern woman faces a difficult task: how, without being known as a hypocrite, still achieve her portion of love. We will try to explain how this should be done gently.
Orgasm to order, or why you shouldn't cheat on a man in bed
Women are often accused of avoiding sex under the pretense of headaches. But often all sorts of excuses are found by men. And the reason for this is much deeper than the cooling of feelings that inevitably appears in marriage.
It's good when a woman knows what her partner likes, tries to achieve perfection in the art of oral sex or regularly exercises Kegel.
But many are convinced that men do not pay attention to the nuances at all, that orgasm can be imitated with impunity for years. But they very keenly feel how good you are with them in bed. Perhaps the partner will not always say with certainty whether the sex ended in the desired outcome for you, nevertheless, it is important for him what you felt in the process.
Don't build relationships with people you can only have good sex with. Such a position can lead to a serious trap.
If you are in search, you can choose a man who is close to you in body. Those with whom you will not associate your life. It is even more expedient to do this with someone with whom you do not plan to build a joint future, so that later you will not listen for the rest of your life that at the beginning of the relationship you were suspiciously liberated.
Men remember sexual adventures, women — beautiful feelings
And yet, sex with a well-known partner leaves a deep mark, when both are able to tune in to the same wave. The latter is very important. After all, when we are in a relationship for a long time, it becomes more and more difficult for us to “listen to the same radio station” over and over again; and experience joy and excitement from it. Too many grievances, thoughts, memories, associations. Too familiar smells, taste, everything is predictable and understandable.
The paradox is that when the opportunity arises to try a new relationship, you don't always enjoy it because you feel like it's "not for you."
Men often remember unusual sexual adventures, and it is not so important for them who was the second participant in them.
For a woman, the most vivid memory is most often sex with her partner after separation, when all the old feelings suddenly begin to play with new colors. This is why sex should never be used as a replacement therapy.
- If you feel lonely, don't try to save yourself with sex. In such situations, there is always an aftertaste of the meaninglessness of what is happening.
- If you don't know how to close yourself internally, have sex "on the machine", while turning off your heart, it is better to refrain from having sex with people with whom you are not going to have anything serious.
- When you crave communication with a member of the opposite sex, always ask yourself the question: "What will happen next?". If the answer doesn't satisfy you, then sex won't satisfy you either. And, if not the best sex is added to the failed filling of the feeling of emptiness inside, why even start?
Bed rest: common interests and sincerity of feelings
If you have just met a man, take a closer look at him. And for this, conduct a small test.
Community of interest. If your tastes and preferences differ, then disagreements cannot be avoided in the future.
Similarity of temperaments. Before deciding to take a responsible step, look at how your partner meets your expectations, including sexually.
Be sincere. Talk to a man about sex, this will help to avoid problems in an intimate way.
Don't be fooled. Sex — is one of the important aspects of life, and no matter how you feel about it, you won’t be able to get around it. And it's not worth it if you have to have good sex with a good man and with good feelings.
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