Screams, swearing, dissatisfaction with each other or silent anger – How can friendships be maintained after something like this? And the whole trick is that it is in marital relations that requirements for each other arise, duties, a struggle for power and rightness. If these bonds are missing, you can relax and enjoy. Even if by the time of the breakup the relationship seems to be shattered, two people forever have a common past that you cannot cross out, you cannot throw overboard. After all, something once attracted you to each other and kept you close, and during your life together you became really close people.
Matrimony – it is a special kind of relationship with its own laws and subtleties. Perhaps it was these rules that a man and a woman could not or did not want to follow. When everything calms down, a lot of valuable things can be extracted from under the rubble, if there is a desire. You just need to set yourself up for the fact that this will not be an attempt to return to the old, but a transition to a qualitatively new level of relations with the former.
It also happens that feelings are not gone, just resentment or some other feelings do not allow people to be together. And then someone offers to be friends. It means, "I don't want to be romantically involved with you, but I feel guilty, so let's be friends." But the second agrees, and mentally cherishes the idea of restoring relations. And he can continue to deceive himself for a long time and call his love and sexual attraction "purely friendly relations." At the same time, without even trying to build your new happy personal life.
So here you need to carefully sort out your feelings. If love and sexual attraction remain, do not settle for friendship. Better try to improve your relationship with your partner. And if this is not possible, start building new relationships and be happy!
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