If you can't change the situation, change your response

Someone is more emotional, someone is distinguished by restraint and calm disposition. But everyone had situations when emotions burst out and you appeared, to put it mildly, not in the best light in front of others. After a few weeks, when the passions subside, the situation that provoked you to hysterical behavior does not seem so terrible and you become ashamed of your words and actions. Learn how to quickly calm down and learn how to manage the situation so you don't get silly when you get emotional.

Calmness, only calmness: how to quickly calm down when angry and irritated

To date, psychologists have not determined what is better – always give vent to aggression, taking it out on dishes or other interior items, or restrain yourself. Throw a vase with flowers given by her husband into him, tear up all the joint photos, burn the things of the former – all this is quite impressive, but in fact – absolutely useless. As a result, we get only an increased level of negativity, while the cause of the conflict does not disappear.

According to psychologists, the habit of venting emotions in this way sooner or later increases a person's natural aggressiveness. As a result, such methods are practiced more and more often, and it is no longer possible to restrain oneself in this or that situation over time.

But what to do in this case? It is important to learn how to manage the situation, even if it seems that you are completely powerless. Remember the rule: if you are unable to change the situation – change your reaction. In order to pull yourself together, you will need at least 2-3 minutes. During this time, you can either quickly calm down, or say so much too much that it will take you months and even years to re-establish relations with a person.

The tips that we will describe below will allow you to soberly assess the situation, think calmly and fairly, not allowing emotions to overshadow your mind.

How to calm down quickly?

1. No need to strain – literally. When a person is under stress, involuntary muscle tension occurs, which only aggravates the situation. When you feel yourself getting irritated, try to control your tension.

While inhaling with effort, strain the muscles of the arms and legs, and on the exhalation, relax sharply. Do this 3 times – this will help you quickly calm down and relax.

2. Control your breathing – it should be deep and slow. Despite the fact that this technique is probably known to everyone, when emotions go off scale, such simple methods just fly out of your head.
3. Drink warm sweet water. Dilute a teaspoon of sugar or honey in a glass of water.
4. If you have such an opportunity, retire to the bathroom – moisten your hands with cool water, run them over your forehead, then over your cheeks down and over your neck. Then, for 30 seconds, gently but firmly rub your shoulders and neck. The mini-massage should be completed with a cool rinse.
5. Press alternately on the nail phalanges of the right and left hands. Thanks to this, you will switch your attention and be able to quickly calm down.
6. At the moment when you feel that anger has fettered your whole body and it seems that you are about to explode – go to the mirror and look at your reflection. Will you like your face distorted with malice? Intemperance and irritability spoil a person both literally and figuratively.

Slam the door expressively, express everything at once (or rather shout it), throw objects – is this the way out? In the heat of the moment, you can say a lot of unnecessary things and regret it all your life, because you can’t return time, just like the person you deleted from your life under the influence of surging emotions. Do not make decisions and do not say anything in a hot head – first, calm down, and then soberly assess the situation.