The Imitation Game: The Unexpected Benefits of No Orgasm

Most men are concerned about the question: "Why do women fake an orgasm?" Women often fake an orgasm because they can't feel it. But as it turns out, there are other reasons as well. Experts managed to find out some of them. Given the increased interest in this topic in research circles, the editors of Estet-portal decided to study this issue in more detail. What we have been able to learn about the reasons for faking an orgasm by a woman, as well as the benefits that imitation can bring, read on.

Lack of orgasm – this is a problem familiar to many women around the world. There can be many reasons for anorgasmia: from the physiological features of the structure of a woman's body to a wide variety of psychological factors. Up to 80% of women fake orgasms – this figure was obtained in the course of research and surveys. The authors of a recent study interviewed about 480 heterosexual women who are sexually active but not in a committed relationship.

Why do women fake orgasm

A study published in The Journal of Sexual Activities found that women have four main reasons for faking an orgasm.

Women's altruism took first place. they don't want to hurt their partner's feelings and develop self-doubt. Yes, women do not always think what they say, but when it comes to bed, they begin to worry about the feelings of men and do not want to offend them.

Second place went to women's fear and uncertainty. Women want sex to bring only positive emotions and experience, and often the fair sex is afraid of the opposite effect.  In fourth place (we will begin to describe the third place later) is the desire of women to finish sexual intercourse as soon as possible. And this is not necessarily a stone in the garden of a man. Remember, women sometimes agree to sex not only because of their own desire to get an orgasm, they also think about the desires of men.

And the most interesting – third place – women fake an orgasm in order to become more aroused and ultimately achieve the desired peak of pleasure. Pretty unexpected reason, right? But if you look in more detail, everything is quite logical.

The "play the role until the role is you" theory is based on the assumption that if you portray what you want to get, you will eventually get it. Psychologists use this method to overcome depression in their patients: if a person smiles, then the action itself triggers the production of hormones that make us happier, and over time, a strained smile turns into a real, sincere one.

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Women participating in the study explained that when (by the woman) simulated orgasm, the partner became more aroused, which in turn helped the woman increase her own arousal. Yes, the song involuntarily comes to mind: "I looked back to see if she looked back to see if I looked back."

How to have an orgasm

And now seriously: if a woman recreates the actions that lead to a real orgasm – rapid breathing, sounds, hip movements, muscle tension – she pushes herself to the point where she can get an orgasm involuntarily.

However, it is worth noting an important nuance: the study was conducted with the participation of women who were not in a relationship. So 80% of women who fake orgasm might be a bit of an overestimate.

Also, psychologists do not recommend using the "play the role until the role is you" technique at the beginning of a relationship. Unless, of course, you dare to explain to your lover why you are doing this. How, then, will your partner learn to satisfy you if he thinks that he is already a "great fellow"? Therefore, the beginning of the relationship – this is the worst possible time to fake an orgasm. Indeed, in this case, your partner will not be able to guess that you are not satisfied with his style of having sex and will use it all the time, thinking that it excites you. You, in turn, will remain unsatisfied and irritable.

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Psychologists remind you that the most reliable way to convey to your beloved man any information (including those related to the lack of orgasm and possible reasons) – tell him directly about it. After all, a woman who can open up to a man and completely trust him will certainly learn to completely relax in bed, discarding unnecessary thoughts and fears, which are often the reason for the lack of orgasm in women.