The future monarch of England, King George VI, struggled with stuttering since childhood. But from the realization that he needed to speak to the public, then Duke Albert was so excited that he could not utter a single word without hesitation. You can learn about how he managed to cope with this problem by watching the Oscar-winning film The King's Speech.
However, in everyday life, speaking at a meeting (planning meeting, business meeting) causes no less excitement. The protruding sweat on the back, pouring paint on the face & nbsp; and the desire to say (ask, insist) as quickly as possible in your own words can unsettle anyone. The result of such confused speech and miserable appearance is very predictable: the desired cannot be achieved. But you can speak, like a king, clearly and confidently, if you remember the rules of direct speech.
Rules of direct speech: replace negative particles with connecting ones
Method #1. Take your time. Calm speech will make your speech more sedate. In addition, you will be able to analyze every word and not get away from the topic.
- Another argument speaks in favor of slow speech: when we speak slowly, internal tension subsides.
Method #2. Add some positivity. If you want the word to become a deed and help correct the current situation, use phrases that set you up for positive. Remove from your vocabulary the words "stop", "get rid of", and instead enter inspiring — "improve" and "create" etc.
- Another piece of advice about particles. Instead of denying "but" use a connective "and".
In your own words: be emotional, but don't forget the cheat sheet
Method #3. Learn to improvise. You don't need to take public speaking classes to do this, but you will need to borrow some stage skills.
On the eve of the performance, give a speech at home (preferably in front of a mirror) a couple of times. Then you will perform confidently.
- For greater self-esteem, don't forget to be attractive (compliments from others will help in this), this will help you to be more confident.
Method #4: Connect with your audience. Even if you remember the entire encyclopedia by heart, this is not a reason to refuse cheat sheets. As you prepare for a tough conversation with your boss about a possible pay rise, don't be too lazy to write down the numbers that show you've made a significant contribution to the cause. And for speaking in front of an audience, prepare the necessary diagrams, quotes, etc. It is not worth writing the whole text: what is remembered on paper is not perceived by ear.
- If there are few listeners, look at each one in turn. If you have a whole hall of people in front of you, visually divide them into groups and address each one periodically.
- Do not hide your hands in your palms, and even more so do not lay them behind your back. Stand straight with your arms slightly bent at the elbows.
Method number 5. Program yourself. There are words that mobilize, and there are those that relax. Use them depending on the situation. So, if you want to get manicures, imagine that they cause "shock" in others. And there will definitely be time for you in the schedule of the master.
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