Why do men cheat on their wives?

In terms of infidelity, men are different from women. One of the main such differences is the very perception of the concept of infidelity by men. In the digital age, cheating is not just a sexual act of two people incarnate. Nowadays, the possibilities of people are expanding due to the presence of webcams, chats and other services that provide various services, including intimate ones, and with them the very concept of infidelity is expanding. Is it cheating to have virtual sex with someone you've never met in person? There are no direct and unambiguous answers to these questions.

Psychologists say that despite the fact that often men cover up their betrayal with the shield of evolution and their inherent instincts of procreation, one should not forget about the oath of monogamy that they give to their spouses, the violation of which constitutes the very fact of adultery.

Also, according to psychologists, a man can do anything - hire prostitutes, strippers, watch porn for hours and engage in other types of sex on the side if their spouse is notified of such activities and does not object to it. Indeed, in a relationship, the main thing is the absence of lies, a double life and secrets from a life partner.

Now that we have more or less dealt with the concept of infidelity, consider the main reasons why men cheat on their wives:

1. The man is a liar. He never intended to devote his life to monogamy by taking an oath. He does not understand how important his promise to the woman with whom he decided to live his life.
2. The man is unsure of himself. Deep down he feels too young, too old, too fat, poor, stupid, etc. He uses flirting, sex on the side in order to increase his self-esteem, and also to convince himself that he is capable of something.

3. The man is immature. He believes that if his wife does not find out, she will not suffer from his infidelity. He does not understand that the other half almost always guesses that something is wrong. He does not realize that in time he will still be exposed and still hurt his beloved.

4. The man is psychologically traumatized. He may have experienced physical, sexual abuse, or self-loathing, which in turn made him less willing to fully trust and commit to another person. He may also seek sex outside to escape his emotional and psychological pain.

5. Man's expectations are too high. He believes that his wife should satisfy his sexual needs at any time, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Due to his narcissism, he does not understand that his wife has many responsibilities, and she cannot devote all her time only to him and relations with him. Therefore, he takes offense at his wife and goes to seek attention elsewhere.

6. The man is bored. Perhaps he is bored, devotes too much time to work and believes that he deserves something for himself, while thinking not about fishing with friends, but about sex on the side. Perhaps he wants to get more attention from his significant other and believes that the period of suspension will force him to pay attention.

7. A man does not understand the essence of the relationship. A man confuses limerence - infatuation - with true love and does not understand that passion in a relationship eventually turns into a softer and deeper trusting relationship.

8. The man is addicted. Perhaps the man has an addiction to alcohol or drugs that affects decision making and leads to promiscuous sex. A man may also have problems with sexual compulsiveness, i.e. he uses sex to soothe, escape from disturbing thoughts, pain and psychological problems.

9. The man wants to leave you. Unfortunately, it also happens that a man really wants to end the relationship and, by his betrayal, lets his wife or girlfriend know that he wants to leave her, without talking about it directly. Or he simply does not like to be alone and is looking for a replacement for you to go directly to another woman.

10. Lack of male company. It is important for a man to be valued and respected not only at home, but also at work, among friends, etc. If he does not receive due respect, which his spouse does not provide him with, he will look for a person who will appreciate and respect him.

Psychologist's note: experience shows that among the many couples and people who are trying to survive the infidelity of a loved one, the most common problem is not the physical act itself, but the constant string of secrets and lies that this fact is veiled.

It must be remembered that the wives of men who have experienced their infidelity are often subject to symptoms of acute stress.

Estet-portal calls to appreciate and respect your companions and life partners and wishes you a happy and strong relationship.

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