«For women– hide age, it's like for men – to serve in the military. Holy duty! –The ingenious phrase of the nanny Vika, who has been celebrating her 29th birthday for the last 10 years, has become the motto of many ladies. The representatives of the fair sex are sinning with this, oh, they are sinning!
You know, they like to lose a couple of years – and the older they get, the more they tend to shed…Why? Now our portal, together with psychologists, will figure it out. So, is it worth it for women to hide their age, and why do they do it anyway?
Why do women hide their age
To begin with, let's figure out where the legs grow from the desire of women to be forever young. It looks like from the most ancient times: the progenitors, in order to attract the attention of the strongest man capable of protecting them and their children, in order to give birth to these very children, in order to have time to hide from a predatory beast in a cave, had to be young, strong, strong.
Apparently, the thirst for youth is written in a woman at the genetic level. Or in genetic memory. And although now the speed of running in the matter of saving lives is useless, but the mass media is more dangerous than any saber-toothed tiger, because they are actively crushing the cult of youth. In any advertisement (unless it is an advertisement for a cream for false teeth) – young beauties. Fashionable clothes, mainly for young, slim people. We will generally keep silent about shoes with 12-, 15-centimeter heels.
The employer in the vacancy simply considers it his duty to paint a friendly, and most importantly – a young team, which invites super-professionals no older than 30 to join. Forty, fifty, even sixty, but what's there to trifle! – seventy-five year old "young people" hugging twenty-or even sixteen-year-old girlfriends. What remains to be done "with such happiness" to those who are already & hellip;, in general, not even eighteen? There is only one thing left: to hide the age.
Psychologists say that people who are not satisfied with their personal lives and who are longing for change often prefer to hide their age. Like, in this way they expand the "age range" search for a potential partner.
According to psychologists, they hide the age of a lady because:
- think that it will be better this way, because youth gives certain advantages: sexuality, open doors for any undertakings…
- not satisfied with their personal life, longing for changes in it;
- thus expand the "age range" partner search;
- dissatisfied with the present, subconsciously moving into the past, where they were younger, more beautiful, more desirable, more successful…
- are being protected. Confident that “there is so little left to live, I am already seventeen years old,” they believe that the rest are of this opinion, and therefore they will not turn to the “old woman”; attention.
Although, in fairness, it must be said that if not everyone wants to find eternal youth, then very, very many. And since there are not enough apples of rejuvenation for everyone, they are replaced by a banal lie on the subject of "eternal eighteen." But is it always justified, isn't this concealment fraught with even greater problems than the truth about the years, which, according to Genatsvali Kikabidze, may well be wealth? Read about how to keep your age in the previous material estet-portal.com.
Do ladies need to hide their age and how men react to it
So, taking into account the fact that even now, in order to survive, a woman has to grab her piece of the pie in the form of a good job, a good husband, she also has to be, or at least appear young, we will proceed from the premise that many women hide their age. Now let's see what can come of this.
Situation one: to a simple, ingenuous question of a straight man, like tram tracks: "How old are you, beauty?" ten years old. Possible development of events:
- "Oh no, I don't need kindergarten. It's time for me to get married, and you probably just want to go for a walk. Outcome: ciao, dear.
- Everything suits him, the relationship is gaining momentum, you see yourself already the mother of his children, perhaps he has matured. Perhaps you even took your passports to the registry office, and 5 seconds before submitting the application, he saw your date of birth. Remember the American melodramas where the characters say: you can't start a life together with a lie. Even if it's small. Finita la comedy.
- «…eleven?! I thought we were the same age. And already to himself: «M-yes & hellip; what will you be like in ten years, if you already look, to put it mildly, grown-up. Oops…
Second situation: same question, answer – "A woman is as old as she looks." Omitting the insulting "They don't live that long!" and assuming intellect, tact in the potential chosen one, consider the options:
- «Are you flirting? Well-well…» If you come across a man who loves coquettes, – wonderful. But remember: many gentlemen are afraid of ladies' affectation, preferring to stay away from campy fifs.
- "I thought you were serious, we have a serious relationship. And you cast a shadow on the wattle fence. Sorry, goodbye.
- "Can't you tell me directly? Got something to hide? Perhaps not only about age?! sorry-goodbye-2.
Third situation: persistent question and moralizing answer: "It's indecent – ask a woman about her age! We won’t even consider options, since the man will most likely disappear from sight without even listening to the answer.
Why do men try to find out a woman's age? Firstly, as already mentioned, because of their tram straightness: they are used to asking directly and getting the same direct answers. Secondly, this may be a kind of "test for lice" on the part of the gentleman: how honest is the girl? Does she have something to hide? Thirdly, she wants to know if her friend is the right age, mature (or, sorry, not overripe) for a serious relationship.
If a woman wants to see a man next to her, who cares about her personality, soul, life priorities, and not passport data, she should not hide her age, but check if the cherished figure will not become a stumbling block for him.
Of course, if a young man from the first minutes of meeting maniacally persistently tries to find out the exact, almost to the minute, date of birth of a young lady, this is an occasion to think: is he okay? If the question arose at the time, then most likely the man has serious views on his girlfriend, wanting to know better. And if the views of the girl are no less serious, then it is hardly worth hiding the age. B
would a woman want to see a man next to her, to whom the personality, soul, life priorities of a friend are important, and not the date in the passport? So he will check whether the cherished figure will become a stumbling block for him?
Well, for those ladies who still prefer to cherish partisan secrets, and who want to save face, backed up against the wall, we offer a powerful defensive weapon in the form of a classic:
"You can't trust a woman" who doesn't hide her age. Such a woman will not hesitate to say anything, & ndash; once said by Oscar Wilde.
And if a man wants to prove otherwise, let him prove it. Classic…
Read also: Four main myths about female age: that it's not too late after 40
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