In our time, some people believe that the rules of etiquette – it is a relic of a past in which courtesy and good manners were the domain of kings. However, communication with other people and coexistence with them in the same society has not gone away, and it still requires certain manners. Due to ignorance of the rules of etiquette in the modern world, deals and business ties can be broken, the image of a person worsens, his relations with the opposite sex and loved ones become more complicated.
Read this article about what rules of etiquette every modern person should know.
The basic rules of etiquette that a modern person should know
So, if you want to not only be known as a well-mannered and polite intellectual, but really be one, then remember the following modern rules of etiquette.
- The inviting party pays the restaurant bill.
Nowadays, many people do not know this rule of etiquette, which often causes awkward situations, especially between colleagues or a man and a woman on a date. Remember: according to etiquette, the person who invited to the cafe / restaurant / bar should pay the bill. If the wording sounded different (for example: "Let's go to a cafe together"), then everyone pays their part of the bill. However, if a man insists on paying for a woman, there is nothing shameful for a lady to agree.
- Never (remember: never!) visit without warning.
Even if it is your close friend or close relatives, at least a phone call before the visit is required! Imagine your "joy" if you are attacked by "light" friends, finding you in a bathrobe and with a mask on your face, busy washing windows, for example. And they will also expect a traditional treat, which you, of course, did not cook. It is enough to put yourself in the place of another person to get rid of such a bad habit.
And if your friends or relatives practice visits without warning, in order to wean them from impudence, it is enough to pick up a bag and a phone a couple of times when they appear on the doorstep and say that you are very sorry, but you have an appointment, so you forced to leave home – they say, we'll sit next time.
- Don't put your phone on the table at lunch/dinner.
This rule of etiquette is violated by almost everyone and always. Modern people are so afraid of losing virtual contact with the whole world that they are ready to sacrifice for this not only their own manners, but also full-fledged relationships with other people. Leave your mobile in your bag – since the bag is always left nearby in public places, you will still hear the call and be able to answer if the matter is really urgent. And you can scroll through the feed of social networks alone.
Successful people know that in today's world, following the rules of etiquette – it's good for reputation.
- A man should not carry a woman's bag.
A well-mannered man can (and should) help a woman carry heavy trunks, but a lady's handbag is not one of them. However, all the same, many ladies continue to be capricious, persuading their gentlemen to carry her bag on the street and making their companion ridiculous in the eyes of others. If the burden of your bag is too heavy for you, then choose an easier and more convenient option for walking, but do not humiliate a man with such an act.
The same rule applies to women's outerwear – jackets, raincoats and coats. Dress for the weather and don't make a man play the role of a hanger on the street.
- If your companion says hello to someone when they meet, say hello to you too.
This does not mean that you should immediately throw yourself on the neck of a person whom you see for the first time, even if your friend greets him very warmly. However, politely smiling, nodding, introducing yourself and saying a few words about a pleasant acquaintance will not make it difficult for anyone, but it will show you from the best side – as a friendly and well-mannered person.
- Clean shoes in all weather – law for all.
To follow this rule of etiquette, you should always carry wet wipes and a shoe polishing sponge with you, which will allow you to tidy up your shoes in a matter of seconds, even if you just entered the premises after being caught in a downpour.
- Don't be rude for rudeness.
Sometimes it is very difficult to restrain yourself and not sting back the person who has unfairly been rude to you. However, this is what distinguishes a well-mannered person – the ability not to stoop to the level of a rude person. Try to just smile and walk away from boors – and you will be amazed at the effectiveness of this method.
Most of the rules of etiquette have a hidden deep meaning that has developed over the millennia of human life. Common to all rules of etiquette is that they require us to be fair and respect each other.
- Don't let random people know the details of your life.
We are talking about telephone conversations on personal topics in public places. In our time, it is not uncommon for a person traveling in public transport to loudly complain on the phone to an invisible interlocutor about his life/boss/husband or wife, involuntarily embarrassing others who are forced to listen to the juicy details of someone else's personal life, which they did not want to know . It is better to wait until you get home, or at least to a quiet place where no one else will listen to you except the interlocutor.
- It is permissible for a woman to remain indoors wearing a hat and gloves.
But you still need to take off your winter hat and mittens.
- Perfume use should be moderate.
This rule applies to any time of the year, but those around you are especially affected by the abundance of aromas in the hot summer. If you like to pour perfume, then think about other people – some may even get a headache and feel worse from your amber!
Remember the golden rule: if you feel the scent of perfume from yourself half an hour or an hour after applying it – it means you overdid it. A light fragrant trail and a suffocating avalanche of scent – it is by no means the same thing.
- In cultural institutions, you should always face the visitors.
Even if you are a little late for the theater / cinema / concert and everyone has already taken their seats, you should not walk along the row with your back, but facing the people sitting.
- Mute your phone at the movies/theatre/concert.
- Familiarity aside!
Don't touch other people unless they want you to. Even if you are a charming person who cannot imagine life without tactile contacts, this does not mean that timid introverts will be delighted with your pats on the shoulder or back or touch during a conversation.
Exception – helping a woman get out of a vehicle or cross a busy road. Then it is perfectly acceptable to take her hand or arm.
- Don't look back on the street when someone says "Hey!" or whistle.
Even if the sounds are made by someone you know. Reacting and turning around is only a call by name.
- Don't lecture other people, even if they're being rude.
No one needs other people's advice. In addition, your own example, inspiring others, works much better.
- Advice to men: You can smoke in the presence of a woman only if you have asked her permission to do so beforehand.
- The first to greet the one who enters the room.
And this rule of etiquette does not depend on the status, rank or age of the person who entered and those present.
- Personal correspondence is called personal for a reason.
Many spouses sin by secretly reading each other's messages out of jealousy. So do many parents, secretly interfering in the privacy of their child, allegedly for his own good. Not worth – this is not just an ugly act, but it can also completely destroy a trusting relationship.
- Don't apologize multiple times.
If you have asked for forgiveness and heard back that the apology has been accepted – that's all: close the painful topic with a clear conscience and build relationships further, trying not to repeat your past mistakes. And to stir up old wounds and grievances, constantly returning to the past – this is unpleasant for both you and your counterpart.
- Always thank people.
Always thank both strangers even for a small service, and your loved ones – even for those things that seem familiar to us (a delicious lunch, help around the house, etc.). After all, the willingness of people to help – it is not their duty or obligation. This is just a show of sincere sympathy for you, which really deserves gratitude.
Everyday rules of etiquette of modern society are quite simple, but nevertheless, not everyone follows them, although they are worth it.
Remember that courtesy – this is the trait of all noble people. It is almost impossible for a polite person to be rude on the street, a well-mannered person will always be respected in society, and his opinion – valuable. We hope this article will help you become a truly intelligent person!
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