Eye contact: how to learn to look people in the eye

Have you ever wondered why it's so hard to look another person in the eye and not look away? Have you noticed something similar? If yes, then this article is for you. After all, today we will teach you how to develop a piercing gaze and not look away when you are staring at.

A closer look

For representatives of the animal world to look closely into the eyes – a sign of aggression and challenge. In the animal world, the eyes are used as a weapon and a way to convey emotions. A gaze is considered a sign of a challenge and an aggressive attitude. And averting your eyes means obviously losing to your opponent. Approximately the same thing happens in the world of people.

After all, the animal nature lives in each of us. Therefore, you need to learn the techniques of non-verbal influence on people. Of course, a person has many different ways to show emotions non-verbally:

• gestures;
• facial expressions;
• sighs.

But the ability to look correctly into the eyes still remains the main non-verbal indicator of attitude towards another person.

How not to look away

First of all, you need to come up with a so-called "anchor" for yourself. They can be any item that will always be with you. For example, if you choose a coin as an "anchor", then every time you pick it up, you need to repeat the setting to yourself.

Setting options:

• I always make eye contact.
• I don't look away.
• I have a piercing gaze.

It is not necessary to use these particular phrases. The main thing is not to change the essence and constantly repeat only one selected setting. So you set yourself up not to look away when meeting other people.

How to make eye contact

To learn how to look into the eyes, you need to constantly train the look. The main way to train the gaze is imitation. Watch videos of politicians at rallies or boxers before a fight.

Stand in front of a mirror and try to look the same way. Of course, the first time you may not get a piercing look, but through constant training, everything will work out. Having obtained this skill, you will be able not only to look directly into the eyes of the interlocutor, but also to show him your strength.

Little secrets

To train your gaze, you can use a few little secrets that we offer you:

1. To make the interlocutor look piercing, you should look at the bridge of his nose.
2. When communicating, you need to control your breathing. You can calm down and tune in to a serious conversation by counting your inhalations and exhalations.
3. On a piece of paper you need to draw a circle with a diameter of 1 cm. Hang the sheet at a distance of 1 m and look at the center of the circle without blinking. So you will be able to train the tenacity of the gaze.
4. While walking down the street or riding in transport, do not take your eyes off the passers-by. Especially if they looked at you first. This will help you not to be afraid of eye contact when communicating.
5. Don't forget your peripheral vision. Try to notice what is happening around you without turning your head to the side. This way you will develop not only your eyes, but also the ability to notice details.

In conclusion, I would like to say that by developing the ability to look into the eyes, you automatically develop self-confidence. A self-confident person earns more respect from others. We hope that our advice will help you not to be afraid of a glance from the side and learn to hold your gaze.

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