Life consists of a series of successes and failures, ups and downs. After the onset of inner darkness and uncertainty, calmness and peace usually come, peace in the soul gives confidence and clarity of desires. And there are times when there is inconsistency in the consciousness and soul, and there is desire and zeal, but there is not enough strength to move this multi-ton stone from its place and begin to act. This happens because the inner core of a person is broken, weakened after failures and falls.
How to acquire and develop the inner core of a person
In order to be able to gather all your strength into a fist and use your inner support, which is the inner core, you need to renew your aspirations, desires, & nbsp; self confidence. We propose to create a compass, which consists of three global questions, the answers to which can become guides on the way to gaining an inner core.
Question #1. What do I really want?
Without desires, aspirations, goals, a person cannot move on, a stupor begins: "What to do and how to be?". If you are lost in this world of new opportunities, you are tormented by mental hesitation about what to do in order to succeed, for example. You just need to decide for yourself and clearly answer the question posed: "What do I really, absolutely want, what do I want with all my soul and body?". The answer will not come to you easily and simply, in order to get it, you should work hard, observe yourself and your thoughts, or use additional auxiliary methods.
The first effective way to find your desire and intention – this is an unconscious drawing, which, with the help of associations, can be interpreted as the desire of your inner "I". Take a comfortable position, on the couch, at the table, on the floor. Take pencils or felt-tip pens and a piece of paper (A4). Concentrate, close your eyes and mentally scroll through the question: "What do I want?" and, opening your eyes, start drawing, turning off your consciousness for a while, succumb to the magical flow of thought. Let go of your hand, let it decide what to draw on a piece of paper.
To unravel the image, concentrate on the forms, the integrity of the picture, on the figures. Build cause-and-effect relationships to find out what contributed to this flow of thought. Drawing will help you dig deeper and find out what your consciousness wants, find out true desires and intentions. Such a solution will help determine the answer to the question.
Desires are directly related to fantasy, imagination. What is the nature of desire, how does a feeling arise when you want something, strive for something. Man tends to fantasize and imagine the value of such fantasies. Use the second method to find answers to questions. Try doing a procedure that is a bit like meditation. Take a comfortable position, close your eyes and fantasize, internally asking yourself the same question: "What do I really want?" – the answer will come by itself if you let go of the effort and allow the images to stand in rows and complete pictures.
Question #2. What do I really owe?
Quite and often we meet a statement that has already entered our consciousness as an indisputable fact: a person does not owe anything to anyone, including himself! What is actually happening, can a person be so free that he does not owe anything to anyone, without obligations.
Do you have a family – wife, children, or parents – mother and father, brothers or sisters, close friends with whom you are in close personal relationships. How to get rid of debt and obligations. It will be difficult to live alone when there is no one around to talk to, joke with, care for, praise, or receive praise in return. A person without debt and obligations is beneficial to our society as a whole, which is dictated by a market culture in which it is necessary to control other people in order to get what they want (position or profit, for example).
Agree that all this leads to inevitable depression and moral exhaustion, to loss of direction and destruction of the inner core.
A person also needs some freedom, if you become indebted to everyone and everything, then there is no time left for yourself and this also leads to a dead end. In that case, the inner core of a person remains strong and strong if everything is balanced and in its place, without intersecting and without mixing duty and freedom with reality. Responsibilities should be in their place (no way without them), and freedom – in place – to realize your potential.
There should be a clear line when your duties end and another person begins, when your freedom ends, because duty calls. Each person takes responsibility for himself, for another person, for providing for the family, for educating, for supporting parents or children. But it is worth remembering that this responsibility is shared equally among other people.
It is necessary to determine for yourself the balance of duty, responsibility, freedom and your desires, which in total will give a guideline: what to strive for in life. This will help build the inner core.
Question #3. What can't I do without?
If so far, clarity has not come with answers to the questions "What do I really want?" and “What and to whom do I owe?”, the last step remains and the question is: “What can I do without in this situation?”. And you can realize what is vital for the continuation of the intended path when the moment of its absence comes.
The statement that a person cannot do without air is not always realized. You can understand that this is really the case when there is a lack of oxygen and suffocation sets in. An example, though cruel, but understandable. Consider the example of a teenager entering adulthood in order to independently take responsibility for ensuring his life and leisure.
The desire to leave home to start an independent life comes true, and when a teenager is left without loving parents who took care of him – panic begins that there is no support and care nearby. He cannot yet take responsibility for his own freedom, and inconsistency begins between the desire to be free and independent, not being ready to be responsible for himself and the consciousness that it is very difficult without parents.
All this leads to the fact that these three elements can connect together and build a clear course that a person adheres to in life, or not connect and bring mental suffering.
These three questions will show you the way to find yourself. It is possible to develop the inner core of a person, you just have to want it and make every effort.
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