The terrible word obyazalovka is familiar to each of us since childhood. And with every passing year it sounds more and more terrible. Because it is when the obligation takes over us that we lose the pleasure of life, and it turns into a dull swamp of routine. Before you know it, you are already chained with hopelessness and life from weekend to weekend, from vacation to vacation.
What to do? Is there any way out of this vicious circle? Is it possible to change your mindset so that commitment becomes a motivated life? Can! How exactly – read the article estet-portal.com.
How to get rid of binding
You must. You are obliged. Each of us hears such phrases throughout our lives countless times. And often they sound like hitting nails with a hammer, causing a huge UNwillingness to do anything. What can we say about phrases that have been ingrained in our subcortex since childhood, such as "First do your homework, and then play" or "First soup and porridge, and only then ice cream."
At first, one generation was brought up in this way, then it also brought up its children — So we are going along a rut that has been knurled for decades, although from the point of view of psychology, such methods cannot be definitely called useful. After all, this is how they formed hatred for household duties and study, which then automatically spread to both work and family life. As a result, even in adulthood, many of us live with the Loser Syndrome and tend to shirk supposedly unpleasant duties. taught to enjoy the learning process, not being lazy to study with him at home, then everything could be completely different.
By the way, for the same reasons, people with low emotional intelligence, infantiles who grew up only externally, but remained children inside, usually fall into the trap of obligation.
Why? Yes, because an emotionally mature person does everything consciously (including realizing and accepting the need for action even in situations that are not personally pleasant for him), and not because his husband / wife or boss is above his soul.
And if this necessity is completely contrary to his deep convictions and principles, then he does not, realizing his responsibility for the refusal. Note: he does not do it not because laziness or "Baba Yaga is always against", but on principle, being ready to bear responsibility for refusing to act if necessary. Accordingly, an adult person in his soul forms his environment and his whole life consciously – this applies to family, workplace, and friends.
Of course, if our whole life could be conscious, then the word obyazalovka would have disappeared from everyday life, and a real paradise would reign on earth. But, alas, the reality is far from ideal.
Even small household items very often turn into a binding — cooking breakfast for the family, laundry, cleaning and even (terrible to say!) marital sex. When sincere participation begins to fade, formalities become more — and that same obligation begins.
Yes, it will be difficult. But nothing is impossible for an adult Homo sapiens!
So, let's learn to motivate ourselves (if you have a child, then teach him right away). Please note: motivation is not such reasoning as "We need to cook dinner, otherwise the family will die of hunger", "We need to finish the report, otherwise they will be fired from work." From such a "motivation" your inspiration will finally hide in a corner and will not show its nose from there.
Take a more creative approach, with a touch of positive self-suggestion such as "If I solve a difficult problem at work, my experience and professional value will grow", "I will cook a delicious dinner tonight to please the household and bring everyone together at the same table", "I will go for a run in the morning,
You will see, the very process of coming up with positive motivation will captivate you so quickly that you will stop thinking about your affairs as a routine!
There is one more little secret — just try to do everything beautifully, no matter what you undertake. To be proud of the results of your work and yourself.
Perhaps the best means to get rid of the obligation — this is a sense of humor, a neutral attitude to the world and a healthy indifference (we emphasize — healthy). Manage your own life so that the obligation does not control you!
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