Handshake – this is the only body contact allowed in business etiquette. With its help, they establish contact and consolidate the achieved positive result of communication. Showing open palms, people at all times showed that they came without weapons, with peaceful intentions. And now the handshake, having turned into a universal gesture of greeting, remains a symbol of respect and good disposition of the interlocutors towards each other.
Genetics or upbringing?
According to experts, handshake strength is predominantly an inherited characteristic – like bone density or longevity. Almost 2/3 of this trait is genetically determined and only 35% are determined by society, dietary habits and physical activity of a person. To an interested observer, a handshake can tell a lot about a person.
"This is a universal test to determine a healthy and full of vitality of an individual," says evolutionary biologist Gordon Gallup in an interview with the journal Evolution and Human Behavior. According to his research, a man's firm handshake is evidence of the strength of his sexual and aggressive drives. Comparing the anatomical features (shoulder-to-hip ratio in men and waist-to-hip ratio in women) and data on sexual and aggressive behavior of 143 volunteers with the strength of their handshake, the researcher came to interesting conclusions. The women's handshake in no way correlated with their anthropometric or behavioral characteristics. But the strength with which the men shook hands with their counterparts corresponded to the development of their muscles in general, the cockiness in adolescence,
Hand position
A person who extends his hand to his counterpart from afarand, most likely, frank, cheerful and sociable. He goes to the interlocutor with an open hand, demonstrating benevolence with a broad gesture. If “finish” in the imagination of his other hand as extended, you get an embracing figure. Such a gesture – demonstration of readiness for dialogue, for effective communication. If the movements and speech of such a person are intense and fast, you can safely add to the already described features the energy and activity of nature, initiative, readiness for action without delay.
A handshake with an absolutely straight hand indicates a reluctance to let the interlocutor into the intimate area and demonstrates some hostility. However, such a handshake for a resident of a sparsely populated area – psychological norm, tk. their intimate zone is wider than that of the inhabitants of megacities.
If a person extends his arm to you, strongly bent at the elbow, most likely, in front of you is a secretive person. He is not inclined to share information, to allow the interlocutor into his world. The person demonstrates a willingness to withdraw his hand in the next moment. And the small radius of action of the hand indicates the unwillingness to actively and openly act. The palm in such a handshake is often closed, this can be a sign of fear and tightness. However, if the handshake is accompanied by "squeezing", as if inadvertently twisting the interlocutor's hand down, most likely, you have a two-faced and cruel nature in front of you. Internally, this person strives for dominance, but does not have the strength for an honest open manifestation of aggression, or considers sincerity inappropriate. Probably,
Compression force
testifies to the laziness and lack of initiative of nature. Most likely, in front of you is an inert person without an internal engine. He will do only the bare minimum – only what cannot be done (otherwise sanctions will follow). This is the “man of the swamp”, the basic principle of which – stay calm. The fast pace of life does not suit him temperamentally. Such people, in conditions of lack of time, begin to get nervous, do not have time to respond to changes, which is why they make mistakes, lose their judgment and control. Therefore, monotonous, rhythmic activity for them – right choice. They can perform at their best with a streamlined schedule, with clearly defined functions, given enough time. It's amazing, but true: most of the people who have a sluggish handshake are not aware of this peculiarity. They can work on developing their own personal and professional qualities and achieve significant success, while not thinking about what the still lifeless “fish” hand says about them. Therefore, it is worth asking your friends to evaluate your handshake in order to try to consciously work on this gesture (do not forget that you can influence 35% of this characteristic).
A moderately strong handshakecharacterizes an energetic healthy person. He is distinguished by high business and social activity, is purposeful and self-confident.
“Iron“ handshake- if your hand was squeezed until the knuckles turned white (while you did nothing bad to the interlocutor) – most likely demonstrates a person's desire to compensate for his low efficiency in life. The verbalization of the assessment of such a handshake ("Oh, the grip is straight iron!") is likely to confuse its owner. He is unlikely to want to train for you in the future. Temperature and Humidity
Temperature and humidity of hands – something that a person cannot consciously control. These features are inherent in us by nature.
are most often hot and dry.
Cold and dry hands – an indicator of calmness, equanimity and slowness of their owner.
Wet palms – regardless of temperature - always a sign of excitement and high anxiety. In most cases, the cause of excessive sweating (or hyperhidrosis) of all forms is a traumatic situation in the past or chronic stress.
Localized hyperhidrosis of the palms causes great psychological troubles, especially for men, because for them, hand contact is a daily social necessity. Sweaty palms are associated in society with soreness, uncleanliness and even dishonesty of their owner. The very thought of how unpleasant it is for others to shake his sweaty hand causes a person even more anxiety and provokes increased sweating, closing a vicious circle. It is possible and necessary to get out of it. Fortunately, science offers really working methods – both psychotherapeutic and pharmaceutical. One of the most effective – injections of botulinum toxin A in the area of excessive sweating. The drug blocks the nerve endings that conduct impulses to the sweat glands. As a result, sweating stops, and a person forgets about the problem for 6-12 months. If, in parallel with drug treatment, psychotherapy (hypnosis, auto-training, etc.) is used, then, having worked out the consequences of chronic stress, traumatic situations in the past, internal conflicts, a person can get rid of the problem of hyperhidrosis forever.
Palm position
Experts say that if your counterpart holds out his hand to you, palm down, so that your hand is under his, this indicates his tendency to dominate. This is how people who occupy a higher position behave, authoritarian, aggressive. You can also use this gesture if you want to demonstrate strength and dominance. If it is important for you to demonstrate dominance, and your interlocutor does the same, give in to his movement. And then just cover his right hand with your left. You will be on top.
Submission. The opposite situation is possible: your interlocutor holds out his hand to you in a horizontal position, palm up, allowing you to cover his hand from above. By this, he demonstrates humility and readiness to obey, recognizes your leadership. In the same way, you can use this gesture if you need, for example, to apologize for something to the interlocutor or intentionally make it clear that you are giving him control over the situation.
Parity. And, finally, a demonstration of equality and mutual respect of the interlocutors are palms in an upright position. This may indicate a willingness to cooperate and an understanding of mutual interests, but often in negotiations such people are not inclined to give in to each other for the same reason of equality.
With both hands. Politicians often use a handshake with two hands, trying to demonstrate a deep sincere disposition towards a counterpart. However, it should be taken into account that this gesture increases physical contact with the interlocutor and severely limits the freedom of his right hand. Not every interlocutor is ready for this. Ideally, such handshakes are used either between close people, or if both interlocutors are on an emotional upsurge. In the absence of “special grounds” too close physical contact will cause the interlocutor's discomfort and suspicion of the initiator's intentions.
Handshake – a subtle but very powerful impulse that tells your counterpart about who you are and what intentions you have. On the other hand, this gesture allows you to learn a lot about your partner, because in most cases people shake hands with each other, not having the intention of specifically demonstrating something. Try to understand nonverbal cues. This will make your communication at any level more effective. Sincere strong handshakes to you! Source estet-portal.com
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