10 Wisest Truths of Psychologist Dale Carnegie

10 мудрейших истин психолога Дейла Карнеги

Who does not know the famous psychologist, writer Dale Carnegie and his main work "How to Win Friends and Influence People". Many people know this book. Also, the work of this famous person, standing at the origins of the psychology of communication, is also rich in other works in the field of the psychology of relationships, communication between people.

The advice and recommendations of D. Carnegie written in the 70s of the twentieth century remain relevant and readable among young people and the older generation today. We have selected 10 wisest truths that can help you rethink your life or just look at it with different eyes.

Top 10: Dale Carnegie's tips to rethink the past year

"Act like you already happy and you really will be happier."

All problems start in our head, at first we start thinking about a possible problem, it would seem that we calculate all the ways to avoid it, but it turns out the opposite: this problem still overtakes us, sooner or later. So let your good mood and positive disposition scare away all the bad and open the doors only to the good.

"The secret of our misfortunes is that we have too much leisure to think about whether we happy or not."

And it's really healthy, watch the successful people of our time, how much leisure they have: a lot of things to do, meetings, opportunities. They do not have time to analyze their lives, break them down into tiny pieces and examine them under a microscope. Don't think about whether you are happy, just be. Find happiness in small things, and a big stream of happiness will come when you don't even expect it.

"If fate gives you a lemon, make lemonade out of it."

Each difficult and even the most difficult situation that failed and did not bring due satisfaction should be analyzed for positive results in order to learn a lesson how not to do it again. Even in the saddest situation, you can see the good and the good.

"There are only two things you need to live and be happy: firstly, to live, and secondly, to rejoice."

The understanding of this statement is based on the previous ones. Do not torment your soul and brain with recipes for happiness and methods for achieving success, just live and enjoy every minute of your life: wind and rain, snow, sun and even stones from the sky can give you a good mood. Have you fallen? Be glad you didn't hit anyone. Someone else has fallen, help and rejoice together that you have remained in good health and good mood. Give a helping hand to others so that the same helping hand will be extended to you.

"Of course your husband has his faults! If he were a saint, he would never marry you."

And it's not even about whether the husband is a saint or a wife. The wisdom is that no one in this life is perfect. Each person has his own understanding and thoughts, beliefs and, accordingly, behavior. Accept relatives and friends as they are, so it will be easier to find a common language and mutual understanding will rise to a different level.

"Remember that a person's name — is the sweetest and most important sound in any language."

Do you like being called: cat or Murzik, or husband/wife, mommy/daddy? Believe me, the impression of what has been said, if the name of the person you are addressing, will be much greater. No one would like to always be called a cat (for example), because the name is completely different, melodic and so familiar.

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"Always remember that children love to listen to adults talk — and be on the lookout."

This applies to couples who have babies. The child is so receptive to the world around him that everything said is recorded as if on a magnetic tape. Then he rethinks and gives out in his understanding. Do not overload the child's mind with unnecessary negativism, try to let the child listen to more joyful and positive words.

"People are not interested in me or you. In the morning, at noon and in the afternoon they are only concerned with themselves."

There is no need to constantly think: what will other people say? They won't say anything. Think only of yourself when making a decision.

"Don't be afraid of enemies who attack you, be afraid of friends who flatter you."

This is not a sign that you should be a hermit and not allow others to be friends with you. It's just that every time there is some kind of change in your life, it is friends who can support or, on the contrary, throw you into the pool. Be careful who you trust.