Many people think that "everyday life" kills passion in a relationship, turning marital sex into a rare and not particularly impressive phenomenon for both partners. Indeed, having lived together for more than one year, a husband and wife completely study each other and someone may get bored, but such a deep knowledge of the preferences of their soulmate can play into your favor. Estet-portal will talk about the benefits of sexual relations in marriage and how to maintain passion and attraction after years of marriage.
According to conventional wisdom, sex in marriage – rather pathetic than exciting. If movies and TV are to be believed, everything in the marital bedroom is hurried, crumpled and awkward, and rather evokes sympathy and laughter. Unlike, for example, a casual relationship, adultery or sex with an ex, where everything is accompanied by sultry soundtracks and rumpled sheets. But there are at least 10 reasons why marital sex is amazing.
You – masters of knowing each other's bodies
You know where to let your hand wander and where – not worth it. Your partner knows exactly what you like and what you hate. So you don't have to come up with a tactful way to say again, "What's the weird thing you do with your nose during oral sex? Can you please never do that again?"
Good marital sex can also be quick if needed
Having the aforementioned master's degree means sex doesn't have to take an entire hour. Especially if tomorrow you both get up at sunrise. Because in five minutes you can do everything better than beginners in 45 minutes of inefficient body movements.
It's also perfectly normal to say, "Do you want to have sex when my series ends?" Everything you need for great fast sex – coincidence of the moods of the spouses.
Sex in marriage can be a lot of fun
Anything that would have terrified you if it had happened at the time you were dating can now become a stunningly funny gaffe. For example, a failed test of a new difficult position, an accidental cum in your ear, or a pillow that fell on your face at the most crucial moment can now turn out to be a hit that you both will laugh at for several days in a row.
You can fully surrender to the moment
Of course you have kids, problems at work, household chores and a million other household chores that can ruin good marital sex. That's life. But on the other hand, you don’t destroy yourself with doubts: “Does this person like me? Will we meet again? Does he (she) find my breasts (penis) attractive enough? Should I stay the night or leave? Am I good enough (a) to get my partner to orgasm? Did she have an orgasm? Or did she just flinch when I touched her nipples?" And so on. In the matrimonial bed, you can be here and now, fully living the moment of intimacy, without being distracted by painful doubts and fears.
You create your own norms
Behind the closed matrimonial bedroom door, you and you alone determine what is "normal". Spit on bookish dogmas or "knowing" advice friend – he, thank God, does not sleep in your bed!
If you enjoy having sex once a month – and you both agreed to this – this is your "normal". If both of you prefer to do it in the missionary position – amazing! Do you do Friday swinger parties with your neighbors? Excellent! Do you like it when your partner spanks you – and he does it with pleasure? Wonderful! This is your marriage norm.
Whatever the positions, rhythms, or characteristics of your sexual relationship in marriage – if you two like it, that's great. Regardless of what others might think about it.
It's so easy for fantasies to come true
To try something truly vicious, you need to be able to negotiate, communicate and trust your partner. In marriage, you (normally) have it all in abundance. Therefore, you have the opportunity to embody your wildest fantasies, experiment with role-playing games, bondage, dominance, tastes, places or pain. At the same time, the likelihood that one of you will end up in the police (or in tears) as a result of experiments is unlikely. Plus, the more homely, soft and intimate your day-to-day relationships are, the hotter your handcuffed marital sex will be at night.
Sexually transmitted diseases – forgotten past
If you – monogamous couple, of course.
As well as condoms, douching, partners who lie about their sexual history, or panic in the middle of the night: "Is it herpes or just a big pimple?!"
Simultaneous Orgasms
Of course they are not guaranteed in marital sex. But the more you sleep with the same person you love, trust and are devoted to – the more likely it is to happen. You know each other's rhythms, each other's bodies and hot spots on them. And also – Feel free to experiment in bed with vibrating toys to help you achieve orgasm, don't you?
You can take each other for granted
You shouldn't treat each other like this all the time, but you should allow yourself to do it once in a while. If you have a healthy marriage, you communicate often and understand each other well – you will most likely have sex whenever you need it. You do not have to conquer cities and hope that you are lucky. You don't have to do a crazy haircut every time or appear prettier, stronger, taller, or leaner than you are.
But be careful! If you take marital sex (or marital love) too often for granted, you may find that the sex in your marriage is less reliable than it used to be.
You are improving
Sex doesn't get better on its own over time. But it will, if you want it.
The practice of sex will not automatically make you a perfect lover – because every person is unique in bed. But by having sex with the same partner over and over again, you will definitely become better at sex for that partner.
In other words, if loving spouses do not become ideal sexual partners for each other, give up – unforgivable! You definitely have all the options and what's more – duty – to become household gods and goddesses of marital sex.
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