Father – the main man in the life of every girl. It is on him that the future of his daughter depends, in particular, how her relationship with the opposite sex will develop. So, a girl can grow up either as a self-confident girl, or, on the contrary, notorious and convinced of her own worthlessness. In the article, we described 5 types of fathers, & nbsp; the consequences of their behavior, which can ruin the daughter's privacy.
Types of fathers whose behavior negatively impacts daughters' love lives
Type #1. Father inaccessible, cold, aloof
This type of father is characterized by the following traits: he never just praises his daughter and does not admire her. To earn praise or approval, a girl needs to try very hard. At the same time, the cold dad not only refuses to notice his daughter's successes, but also devalues her achievements. Such a father never hugs his daughter, does not stroke her head and considers any manifestation of feelings for the child to be absolutely meaningless "calf tenderness".
Daughter: tries to get the attention of unavailable men, tries her best to earn their love. Daughters of this type of father often admit that the vast majority of men are absolutely uninteresting for them. In their understanding, "the same man" - the one who shows absolutely no interest in them, is distinguished by coldness and inconstancy. For such girls, the most important – gain recognition and praise from their chosen one, for which they often take drastic measures and humiliate themselves. As a result, this only repels a man who will never be able to appreciate what is "running" after him; woman.
Output: you need to realize that you can evaluate yourself and not constantly rely on the opinions of others. Start loving and praising yourself, approving your actions, say to yourself the words that you would like to hear from your father and beloved man. When it comes to relationships, you should learn to keep a balance and stop focusing on one person, especially in the early stages of a relationship. If he doesn't write – no need to sit all day with bated breath, and wait for messages from him – get out for walks with new people, chat, have fun!
Type #2. Father unknown
The girl hardly knew her father – her mother gave birth to her when she was not married, or her parents divorced when she was very young.
Daughter: desperately continues to search for her father. If this place is vacant until the moment of her puberty, she begins, without realizing it, to search for it. The daughters of this type of father often fall in love with men who are much older than they are, and sometimes even married. They get stuck for a long time in the role of a mistress, while their peers are completely uninteresting to them. Such girls like teachers, coaches in sports sections and celebrities.
The way out: find your real father and let him take a place in your heart. Try to forgive your dad for everything.
Type #3. Tyrant Father
Children saw how their father abused their mother. Most likely, he suffered from alcohol or other addictions. The daughter was a witness to constant beatings and other humiliations from her father.
Daughter: Tries to avoid men, instead surrounding herself exclusively with female friends. Girlfriends and relatives play both male and female roles for her: they provide support in difficult life situations, help make repairs and keep company during the holidays. Girls who grew up in the company of a tyrant father avoid long-term relationships with men in every possible way, so even in the event of pregnancy they decide to raise a child on their own, or rather, with the help of those same girlfriends.
Second option – the grown-up daughter of a tyrant begins to play the role of a protective son for her mother and rebuffs her father. Often such girls become unsurpassed athletes, especially martial arts are good for them. They prefer coarse clothing, which is associated with a brutal man. Such a girl can only build a lasting relationship with a man who can accept that his wife will always be the leader.
Exit: see what's there – outside of the "women's world". You should always celebrate all the good things that you get from men and learn to build friendly, trusting relationships with them.
Type #4. Father is inconspicuous, quiet
The mother always dominated the family, while the father remained in the background, he did not dare to argue with his wife.
Daughter: despises men who fit the father type – malleable and quiet, while experiencing fear of the strong and strong-willed. They treat the whole animal in men with particular disgust (stubble, the smell of sweat, etc.). Also in this case, the girls may have a fear of male genitalia, so they agree to have sex only in the dark, and oral caresses for them – taboo.
Output: make male friends and try to imbue their interests. Friendship with men will help develop the masculine in yourself, which was lacking due to paternal depression. So you will learn to be more determined, firmer and stronger.
Type #5. The perfect father
Father – something like a "home icon". Mother does not have a soul in him, admiring her husband day and night. The daughter is brought up in the belief that her chosen one must be the same as her father.
Daughter: dad for her – ideal man. Each new chosen one is compared with him, and, naturally, the father turns out to be better in all respects. Often such ideals also have certain vices – for example, they sometimes like to sip something strong or cheat on their wife. The daughter unconsciously chooses a chosen one with the same vice as her father.
Another scenario – the girl continues to reject all possible applicants for the hand and heart, because they do not reach the pope. As a result, her chosen one becomes quiet, "no" spouse – being formally married to him, she manages to maintain a psychological marriage with her father.
Exit: admit that the father – only a father and may he be the most ideal man for you – he will never be your husband. It is important to come to the realization that all people – completely different and you need to perceive a person as a full-fledged person, not comparing him with his father.
Often we unconsciously push away good men and chase after those who are not worthy of our attention. Knowing the types of fathers and the influence of their behavior on daughters helps to understand the reasons for their failures in their personal lives, to realize and eliminate them.
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