I used to think that 30 years – this is the frontier of life. By this time it should be a "full bowl". And I have nothing, I have not achieved anything. From such thoughts there was no strength at all, the energy ended, there was a feeling of inner fatigue. You look, and it becomes not clear what you have been doing all these years. "That's it, life is over!" – I thought. This is how the crisis of 30 years affected me.
A little later in a therapy group, I learned that this is one of the problems of the crisis of 30 years, and that many women face it. At the age of 30, a lot has already been done, there are certain successes and developments, but there is no certainty that everything has been done correctly and the right course has been chosen. And here the question arises: "How to find new landmarks that will serve as a guiding star further on the path of life?"
You just need to weigh and evaluate your achievements by this period. After all, sometimes what seems like a minor fuss, in the eyes of others looks like a serious achievement. Therefore, it is important to take a break from introspection and ask close friends about your successes. Perhaps they will be able to tell you faster about the peaks that you managed to conquer, but you did not notice them.
It was the same with me: just think, I have two children, a husband, I graduated from graduate school, I lead groups, and I have my own, albeit small, therapeutic practice. It doesn't cost anything. These are very small, worthless achievements. But it turned out that other people perceive this as a success, as a feat, and even envy. I was surprised and rethought my attitude towards what I had achieved by my 30s. Now I am proud of myself and know exactly what I am striving for.
I advise you not to rush, but to weigh all your successes, not comparing yourself with others. And life will follow a new, fuller and richer path!
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