Physical punishment of children: why you should not beat a child

In recent years, especially often began to talk about the physical punishment of children. This is due not only to fashion child-centrism in developed countries, but to psychological research, which makes strong arguments against the use of force.

Parents are still divided into two camps. Some say they were beaten, but nothing bad happened . Others argue that even a slap or a slap on the back of the head is unacceptable. The editors of estet-portal.com invite you to find out what physical punishment of children leads to, and also about alternative methods of education.

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Physical punishment of children: what what does assault say

Let's start with the most important thing: the use of force — it's not about bringing, but about dominance. Adults suppress children in this way, subjugate them to their power, humiliate them in order to achieve obedience and obedience. Often, through cuffs, parents express their own negative emotions that they cannot contain. Most often, young children are beaten. They are not in able to adequately respond to aggression, so they submit to the will of a stronger adult.

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Instagram If the physical punishment of children has already become a "family tradition", then they just get used to violence, endure, but continue to do what is forbidden. Parents use even more cruel methods. There is more and more violence, and obedience, as it never was, and will not will be. Therefore, assault — pointless method. The only thing you can bring up with   — the desire to grow up and revenge.

Why do parents resort to violent parenting

Parents quickly realize that physical punishment doesn't have the desired effect. Why do they keep beating children? For several reasons:

• "Bad heredity".

  On their own children, parents who were beaten by their mothers and fathers vent their grievances. Violence in the family is already perceived as the only correct method of education.

• Lack of desire to take care of children.

  Instead of long persuasion and explanations, heart-to-heart conversations, joint games, many parents prefer slaps on the back of the head. It's easier and faster.

• Parental incompetence.

  Often, adults just don't know how to influence child if he does obey. Self-education in this question — a long and difficult process, and violence — easier.

• Parental Self-Assertion.

  People who have to face pressure and humiliation may be cruel to their own children to take out their anger on those who are not in able to fight back.

Special mention should be made of  mentally unhealthy parents who need  medical care. Due to the suffering of children, such people receive moral satisfaction. Someone else's pain relieves their own.

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There is no benefit from battling, but the harm can be enormous:

• Neuroses.

  Constant fear undermines the child's nervous system. This inevitably affects self-esteem, future career.

• Problems in communication with peers.

  Humiliated position in the family does not allow the child to build full-fledged relationships with peers, make friends.

• Developmental delay.

  Often there are problems with  physical, mental health, difficulties with  development of speech, concentration.

• Future parental abuse.

  9/10 children raised by physical assault then treat their own children.

• Bad performance in school.

  Increased anxiety is not for nothing. The fear of a low score and punishment for it is so strong that the child cannot study normally and get along with teachers, classmates.

• Problems in adolescence.

  If children are beaten, they often try to run away from families as they grow up. Hence bad company, early experiences with alcohol and drugs, suicides.

There is one more point that parents should not forget about. Children who are beaten become secretive, try not to let adults into their inner world. Growing up, they finally move away and cannot become a full-fledged support for aged parents. There is a high probability of lonely old age or even problems from adult children.

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First, it's worth understanding that physical punishment is unacceptable. But there the other extreme — permissiveness and the complete absence of punishment. Correct parenting methods — between these poles:

• Use rewards.

  Constantly find out what your child likes and dreams about. This will help to correctly reward him for good behavior.

• Use hobbies to switch attention.

  Knowing what your child likes, you will easily switch his attention from conflict to their favorite game, book or other interesting activity.

• Be consistent.

  There must be prohibitions, and it is important for parents to learn not to change their decisions under the influence of children's persuasion and tears. Inconsistency in upbringing is unacceptable.

  Use "privations" as punishments.
Not having received a favorite toy or entertainment, the child realizes that he is punished.

• Always explain to your child why the is wrong.
When punishing, make sure the child understands his mistake and knows what he should have done.

There are situations when parents can hardly contain their anger, because the stubbornness of children can drive anyone out of themselves. Learn control techniques. It will help in raising a child much more than spanking.

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Highlights on the effects of physical punishment on children Restrain yourself if you really feel like hitting a naughty child. Physical punishment of children can have serious negative consequences:

Neurotic disorders that will affect study, future career and personal life.

• Delays  — both physical and emotional.

• Problems in communication with peers, classmates, teachers.

• Early experiences with alcohol, drugs, suicide.

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Explore and use humane parenting methods. Love your children, hug more often, say kind words. Become a source of warmth, protection and support for them.

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