Specialists in women's well-being draw the attention of the fair sex to how important it is to value yourself, to be in harmony with your soul and body, to constantly develop and only get better. At the same time, any coach is sure that most women's problems – comes from childhood. Therefore, if you are a girl’s mother, remove phrases from your vocabulary that can “maim” you. your daughter.
Bad Phrases: What Not to Say to Your Growing Daughter
- "You are very beautiful"
It's ironic, but that's exactly what you shouldn't say to your girl. Otherwise, the child will have a preference for external beauty over internal beauty, and he will do everything to develop this resource, yet others – empathy, intelligence will be considered by your child as secondary components of personality. In general, compliments like: "What a reasonable, sensitive, strong you are" will do to inspire your girl. – they are just aimed at her inner world. And the external beauty can be emphasized by saying: "When you smile, you just shine." The difference in approaches, in our opinion, is obvious.
- "Come on, I'll do it"
Often, while the children are small, we do a lot for them. When they grow up, we cannot resist the temptation to do something for them, because it will be better and faster. However, if the task that needs to be done is not dangerous for your daughter, overpower yourself and let her do it herself. Need to tie your shoelaces, cut out cookie dough with a cookie cutter, or pour milk into a cup? Please. The worst thing that can happen is that your child's shoelaces won't tie so quickly, the kitchen will be littered with more flour than usual, and milk will spill on the table. But then the child will show independence. And so it will continue.
- "You can't have everything"
Of course, life consists of victories and defeats, however, why do you need to set your daughter up for the fact that she cannot have everything? Perhaps she can do it. Be careful with such verbal markers, because children remember very well everything that we tell them, and this "settles"; in their subconscious.
Our children have an unlimited number of opportunities to realize themselves. Think about how different your own life could be if you had such guidelines from childhood.
- "You don't finish anything"
"All your undertakings end in nothing", "You never finish what you started, you leave things halfway" – forget these expressions. Be glad that your girl is inquisitive and tries to find new adventures in such a huge world. She is simply interested in many things, she is an addicted person, and this, in fact, is wonderful. If you condemn her for losing interest in something, this will lead to blocking her creativity and inner freedom. Give your daughter the opportunity to explore what she likes, but on her own "wave", at her own pace, so that she can become a confident person.
- "Stop crying"
The girl perceives these words as the need to hide her emotions. But it is emotions that make our life richer, bring magic to it and give it meaning. And the ability to express them, in fact, makes a person a person.
Respect and accept your girl's emotions, even when your vision of the situation does not match with the child.
Try to educate your daughter by your own example, because everything should start from home, and adults for a child – a clear example of how it should be right, wise and worthy. And do not underestimate the impact of your own words and the fact that they can inspire your girl to a successful prosperous life, in which she can fully realize herself and be herself.
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