Some of us manage to be open to people, others – prefer to keep even close relatives at a distance, there are also special people who are not inclined to trust anyone at all. However, everything needs a measure, and deviations in this matter in one direction or another interfere with normal relations with people. Of course, your inner world must be protected from unwanted attempts to "look" into the soul and here, as they say – trust and verify. But it also happens that often, having received another lesson from life, we stop trusting anyone at all. How to be? The solution is unequivocal: you still need to learn to trust people and do it not with childish naivety, but from the standpoint of a mature person.
How to learn to trust people without fear
Understanding the reason for distrust
As in every question, the root cause is important here: understand yourself, why are you wary and not inclined to trust? Who are you protecting yourself from: does your distrust extend to absolutely everyone you know, or does it concern only a certain group of people? Usually such "closeness" is an echo of a painful practice in the past, when you had to face the fact that you were seriously let down or betrayed. The habit of not trusting may also be the result of a special temperament. Try to restore the details of a half-forgotten unpleasant incident, and you will surely understand: the source of the negative – a certain person who acted incorrectly, and not your entire environment. So stop expecting any trick from everyone without exception.
Don't forget about good experience
Of course, more often than not, each of us acts with an eye to the experience gained in the past and the lessons learned from it. And this experience is not always positive. But still try to change the vector of attention. Focus on positive emotions from pleasant acquaintances and meetings that happened in your life.
Agree that in the environment of any of us you can find a few people who are worthy of trust.
Memories of such people should definitely "inspire" you and, perhaps, you will reconsider your attitude towards people in the matter of trust, ceasing to see a potential traitor in every person.
Reject stamps and labels
Yes, we are all different, everyone has difficulties in life, troubles, sometimes the mood spoils. Admit it to yourself, because you also do not uninterruptedly radiate positive. Do you want to trust people? Then try to get rid of prejudices and established patterns, let the new acquaintance show his best qualities. Remember that each of us has both negative sides and its own oddities. And not everyone sees you as a rival (-ka, -zu), and the boss is not always a heartless tyrant or a bitch, etc.
Feelings – under control
It is clear that faced with betrayal, no one wants to continue such repetitions on their life path. Therefore, often, having once experienced unpleasant emotions, a person begins to be cautious and tries to deliberately divide the people with whom fate confronts him into good and bad.
As a rule, not the most positive experience experienced is deposited in the subconsciousness and is manifested by distrust at the next acquaintance
However, when the inner voice once again convinces you that they want to cheat you, and you can naively hurt yourself again, stop and think: who is still in control of the situation at the moment – are you her or those grievances that you had to endure in the past?
Do not forget that the reaction to everything that happens in your life depends on you and it is up to you to decide how events should develop in this case, but not your feelings and emotions.
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