How to end a destructive relationship: 4 steps to emotional freedom

Destructive Relationship — a trap into which women of different ages and with any social status fall. Such love begins with beautiful words and courtships, develops rapidly, but over time turns into  "a suitcase without a handle" — It's hard to carry, and it's a pity to quit. It becomes a painful attachment: it’s bad with a loved one, but the thought of a breakup scares you to & nbsp; hysteria. Such relationships have no future. You need to get rid of the emotional attachment. It's not easy, but it's possible.

• How to tell if you are in a destructive relationship
• 4 steps towards freedom and new life
• The main thing about severing a painful emotional connection

How to tell if you are in a destructive relationship

We will not consider cases where the life and health of a woman is in real danger. Here it is worth contacting the competent authorities. Let's focus on  relationships, when a woman loves, seems to be loved, but is still unhappy, and there is no understanding between partners, but there is endless pain.

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There are several signs by which you can unmistakably determine that a relationship is built on dependency, and not love:

• Masks. If your partner doesn't accept you for who you are, you have to hide your true goals, desires, and hush up your needs. Relationships are essentially non-existent. Everyone for himself  Attempts to explain themselves do not lead to understanding, but to quarrels.

• Social Isolation. At the initial stage of a relationship, both partners are drawn to each other, forgetting about the surroundings. But if time has passed, communication has been established, and  you still have a limited range of interests, something has gone wrong   . This may be a sign of a love addiction that interferes with growth and development.

• Obsession with partner.Are you ready to reshape your whole way of life so that your loved one is happy? And how are you yourself, development, self-improvement?

• No support for. When relationships are healthy, they are built on mutual support. People may not at all understand the priorities of partners, but at the same time they are sincerely interested, wish them success, and help as much as they can. If instead they demotivate you, you should think about the appropriateness of such a relationship.

• Criticism. For some reason, it is believed that criticism — it is an attempt to change the situation for the better. It is not true. Criticism — always a manifestation of dislike. If instead of sympathy and  support, you meet a  blame-yourself style reaction, get out of such a relationship. They won't bring you anything good.

• Accusations. Suddenly you found out that your partner has shifted responsibility for his happiness to you? You to blame failures, but success — entirely his merit? Stop and consider how this fits in with your idea of ​​a healthy relationship.

• Insults. If you have to put up with nasty things and let alone beatings, run away immediately. Don justify this.

Healthy relationships motivate both partners to grow and become better. If you receive only criticism, disrespect and consumer approach, then it is better to get rid of such connection. You worthy of love, support and respect. Don lose yourself, no relationship is worth it.

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4 steps towards freedom and new life

It's extremely difficult to break the addiction you fall into. It’s not only common children, real estate and business that stop. There are also social stereotypes that dictate a certain way of life to us. Our compatriots still look askance at lonely women. Think about what's more important — save yourself or the relationship. Your decision will determine the rest of your life.

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We offer 4 steps to  liberation from dependence. You don't have to smash the pots and slam the door. With these tips, you will be able to physically stay in a relationship (although it is better to leave!), but break away from a partner emotionally.

Step 1. Awareness of the problem and analysis of the situation

If you are horrified at the thought of a breakup, think about what specifically scares you so much: possible loneliness, lack of money, condemnation of acquaintances, or something else. It is important to clearly understand the problem and work with it. When you realize your main fear, plan real actions to get rid of it.

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For example, if you have to endure humiliation in order to keep your financial support, think about ways to increase your income.

Step 2. Diary — your faithful comrade and assistant

Start a relationship diary. Write down the situations that triggered the response and articulate your feelings clearly. It is important to take notes immediately so that you do not distort your own reactions later. Here write your own advice and motivational messages.

For example, you were hurt by your partner's inattention, and you feared that he leaves you. Write down that you are afraid of loneliness, but have already grown up and are capable of being a reliable support for yourself, a parent and child at the same time.

Step 3. You are not alone: ​​friends don don't care

If you're feeling lonely in a relationship, share your feelings with a good friend. Tell me exactly what caused the pain. A heart-to-heart conversation will help you cope with the pain, feel the support that you are deprived of in a relationship.

Step 4. By understanding yourself, you get rid of fear

Concentrate on yourself. Seriously take care of your body and soul. Sign up for fitness or yoga, do breathing exercises. Take control. Every day before going to bed, think about what you personally want (not your partner, children, people around you, but only you and only for yourself!). Act according to your interests, and not      partner.

The main thing about severing a painful emotional connection

If your relationship only hurts, but you are afraid of leaving a partner, proceed in stages:

•  analyze the relationship and recognize your fears;

• share your experience with a good friend to feel supported;

• develop your body and soul;

• Become aware of your true desires and act according to them.

Perhaps the realization of your own desires will not come immediately, because you pleased your partner for so long that you forgot about love for yourself. But that moment will surely come. You will be emotionally freed and start a new life. Whether you need a formal relationship with the wrong partner is up to you.

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