Interpersonal Relations – an integral part of the harmonious life of any person. It can be friendship, family or intimate relationships between a man and a woman. Particular pain brings people a break in relationships in & nbsp; intimate area, close contacts in a gender couple. A person's assessment of the fact of parting depends on cultural characteristics, social habits of people in different living conditions (the society of a big city, small settlements and villages). Often, unpleasant emotions from a breakup intensify & nbsp; people's attitude to this fact. This is even a deterrent to breaking long-term contacts. The status of a married man and a married woman is different from that of a person who lives alone.
Emotional shock and breakup
Diverse spectrum of negative emotions – an integral part of the emotional state after a breakup. This is anger, anger, aggression, annoyance from the fact that he could not keep a partner or ended his relationship with him on his own initiative. As a rule, people going through a breakup have the hardest time coping with emotional pain. It is important to allow yourself to go through this stage of mourning without forbidding yourself from expressing emotions. It is better to express those emotions that everyone has on the surface. Unexpressed emotional & nbsp; impressions can "settle" psychosomatic health problems or irritation for no reason. How to show anger and aggression adequately? The methods can be different: for many, it helps to just “speak out”. At the same time, it is important not to "strain" excessively;
Emotions of anger, anger and aggression arise after parting. It is psychologically correct not to hold emotions in oneself, to show negative emotional outbursts outward, without directing them to other people. It is better to select methods individually, which helps better.If you feel very bad, seek professional help from a psychologist. Do something you love that you've been putting off for a long time. Active sports or other physical activity are important. Write on paper what you wanted and did not have time to tell your partner. Basic – vent anger and anger outward, which is important for psychological health.
Correct thoughts about breaking up a relationship
Often an expression of aggression in people who have parted, it develops into a long despondency, unwillingness to do anything. The extreme manifestation of emotional pain during parting – depression. In this case, it is better to consult a psychotherapist. Uncontrollable memories of pleasant moments, regret, may appear. Some of the surroundings may be reminiscent of the past. It is better if, when parting, people managed to talk, discussing the reasons for what happened & nbsp; in a quiet environment. If this did not happen, it is necessary to gradually analyze everything as the degree of emotions decreases, in order to then build a happy relationship. What was wrong anyway? What led to the fact that there was a break in relations?
Don't leave the reasons behind the breakup unsaid. Discuss with your partner, if possible, the breakup and its causes. If this is not possible, try to figure it out on your own or with a psychologist. Draw conclusions for the future.
It is advisable not to forbid yourself in this state to remember pleasant moments with gratitude to fate. A common type of behavior in such a situation: avoiding communication with loved ones, friends, rejecting the support of others. Do not neglect social support if you need it.
After reacting with a whole bunch of anger, resentment and aggression it is still desirable to come to an internal acceptance of the fact that the rupture of relations has occurred irrevocably. It is important to internally accept this situation, without denying or forbidding yourself to think about it and remember it sometimes. In other words, it is necessary to approach forgiveness of yourself and another person for the failed continuation of the relationship. Often after this, people feel sincere gratitude for the good that was and will remain in your memory. Many will think: “All this is good, but what to do next, live” like before"?
To handle the situation, follow a few rules:- Don't stop paying attention to yourself and your favorite activities that you may have left for the sake of relationships or did not have time for them;
- Get rid of things that are reminiscent of relationships and painfully "hurt";
- Refresh your activities with your hobbies. If they are not there, find something for the soul that brings you pleasure;
- Chat with friends, meet new people, don't "canned" in flashback;
- Watch movies on the theme of parting, playing the same situation from the outside. Social comparison is very important for people, especially in frustration;
- Do not look for a quick replacement for the old relationship "to spite everyone." Often this can lead to a cruel mistake and lead the situation to even more serious consequences.
By parting "with the mind", showing negative emotions and anger, you can avoid numerous complications in your life. Analyze the causes and background of what is happening, this will also help you understand yourself better. It will also help you avoid similar mistakes in the future. Accept your emotions and love yourself.
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