How to bond with your child in 20 steps

It is part of being a parent to guide your children and help them adjust to life. Often this requires setting certain limits, refusing and correcting the child's behavior. In order for children not to take such instructions with hostility, it is necessary that the relationship between parents and children ensure trust and understanding.

Now that we have found out that good relations with children – the key to not only minimizing misunderstanding, but also their success in life, let's figure out how to improve relations with a child.

If your relationship with your child is devoid of positive interactions (and according to research, there should be five such interactions for every negative interaction), this can upset the healthy balance in the relationship.

Because after 30 days of repetition, any action becomes a habit, try to include as many actions in your to-do list that are aimed at your communication with your child.

21 examples of positive interactions

In this regard, we present to your attention 21 examples of positive interactions that will help you get closer to your child.

Hug your baby every day for five minutes after he wakes up.
Eat breakfast with your child, at the table talk with him about plans for the day.
Don't yell at your child to make him wash his face, brush his teeth, etc. Rather, make a schedule for him with pictures and praise the child when he completes the appropriate tasks.
Place a note of kindness with your child's school lunch, etc.
Jump together on the way to school or sing songs in the car.
When you say goodbye, tell your child that you will miss him and look forward to seeing him at home. Also don't forget to wish your child a good day instead of the usual "be good".
During the working day, try to get at least a minimum amount of rest, so that when you come home, you have more strength for your family.
Always listen carefully when your child shares information about how his/her day went: do not distract yourself with work, a book, TV or music during this.
If your child gets into a fight, listen to both parties to the conflict, sympathize with them and help resolve the problem peacefully.
If your child is upset that you cooked something different for breakfast/lunch/dinner, don't change the meal at the child's whim. However, do not forget to sympathize with him and let him cry, etc.
When you and your child are learning lessons, sympathize if the child is having a hard time and encourage him in every possible way.
Laugh at his jokes.
Despite the fact that it is better to limit the child in certain actions, such a restriction does not apply to emotions. If you know how your child feels, you strengthen your emotional connection.
Set aside 15 minutes a day to play with your child. At the same time, let him choose his occupation – build a pyramid of cubes, draw a picture, etc. Let him feel like a "principal" for those 15 minutes.
During dinner, ask your child an interesting question and give him time to think about the answer.
Before bathing, have pillow fights or other fun competitions.
If the child does not want to go to bed, use your sense of humor and empathy, but insist on your own.
Listen calmly and with sympathy to the child's complaints about any problems (for example, if he quarreled with a friend at school or kindergarten), do not rush to get nervous and interrupt the little storyteller.
If you get angry when you can't get your baby to bed, calm down first and then use your emotional connection with him to get what you want.
Read to your child before bed. Hug the child and snuggle up to him – let the child feel that all is well. Don't forget to tell him how lucky you are to have him.

The list seems long, but it doesn't really take that long to build a relationship with a child that is warmer and more trusting. When you develop such habits in yourself, you will notice that the child makes more contact, swears less and wants to follow your advice. Such a relationship between parents and children will lead to the fact that the child himself will turn to you for advice.

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