Birth of a baby – what both parents expected, and now you saw the fruit of your love, and now everything around is concentrated around the crumbs. Mom and dad, in addition to getting to know new feelings in relation to the cub, gradually get acquainted with new family roles and responsibilities. It is not always possible to cope with everything, especially when the child is the first, it takes a lot of time and effort to do laundry, diapers, feeding, etc. During this period, the sexual relations of young parents also change, and often they are simply absent. And if this period lasts 1-1.5 months – this is natural (a woman needs time to recover), but when it drags on longer, then it's time to think about how to return passion to the family.
Sexual relations left after childbirth: why is this happening
The lack of intimate life after the birth of a baby has several reasons:
• difficult childbirth, after which a long recovery is required;
• fear of a woman, the thought that everything will be "not the same as before" or sex will cause pain;
• fear of getting pregnant again;
• fatigue of both partners, but more often of a young mother;
• excessive concentration on the child, when you don’t want to pay attention to anything else.
There are individual reasons for each couple, but whatever they are, you can’t let the situation take its course.
It will be easier to keep the old relationship if you deal with a simple question: was there love? Perhaps the cooling of feelings was influenced not by a small crumb, but by the lack of love between partners, which no one had paid attention to before. This option is possible if the marriage was concluded due to pregnancy, the desire to improve the financial situation, etc. If the foundation of your union – love, then the cub will only contribute to the restoration of old feelings and inflame new ones. An understanding loving husband will not start a scandal due to the lack of sex, he will understand that only temporarily intimate life will be in the background. But a man who starts looking for passion on the side is unlikely to truly love you.
Sexual relations after childbirth: how not to get bogged down in everyday life
Your main goal – save the family, because there are already more of you, and there is someone for whom to build strong family relationships. Often the cause of misunderstanding and lack of desire is everyday life, which takes away all free time and energy.
In order not to become a hostage of everyday life, follow these simple tips:
1. One day a week or two – just for two. Ask loved ones to sit with the baby, and at this time, take a trip to a restaurant, park, cinema, or just retire in the same bed with your spouse.
2. Spread the responsibilities between two people. There is a widespread belief that a woman, sitting at home with a child, simply has nothing to get tired of, that she is resting. But household chores are no less tiring than any work, and often – more boring.
3. Communication – pledge of a strong family. Communicate on various topics, including intimate ones, to know what your partner is missing.
With the birth of your baby, you most likely belong to the category of housewives. Does this mean that you can relax and not worry about your appearance, because the baby loves you in any way? And husband? What do you think – Is it pleasant for him to constantly look at his wife in a unkempt condition, dressed haphazardly and with a mop of somehow collected hair? Of course not, and this should not be allowed, you should always shine. The variety of clothes for the home today is so large that the most capricious fashionista will definitely choose a casual look for herself. Even if the husband understands everything and says that he resigns himself to the fact that you now have no time to look after yourself, it will be much more pleasant for him to look at a well-groomed wife, who was only adorned by motherhood and gave her sexuality. Male instincts cannot be canceled.
If you think that it is worth forgetting about various kinds of experiments and leaving them in the past, then this is not so. The birth of a child also opens up new opportunities – for example, in order not to wake the baby in the bedroom, retire in the kitchen or in the bathroom, and this is already an occasion to innovate.
Buy beautiful linen that will emphasize your luxurious breasts during feeding. Warm up feelings throughout the day with intimate photos, pictures, love sms, learn the art of seduction. Let your partner think and dream about you. Buy sex toys to rekindle feelings and get new experiences, make a surprise and buy something in the sex shop as a gift.
Pleasant words and conversations need bodily confirmation. Physical contact is of great importance in the intimate life of lovers. Hug each other more often, hold hands when talking, stroke your cheek, etc.
Since the family has become larger, why not expand the hugs. Make it a rule to hug together, kiss each other, sit on the floor or on the bed and play together as a family. Such games cope with children's jealousy, give partners confidence that they still need each other.
It is possible to return to the former passion in sexual relations, if both partners so desire. Try to deal with your desires: if you both want passion, but there is not enough time – change the daily routine, put the crumbs earlier. When only one wants intimacy, it is necessary to identify why the other partner does not desire and resolve the problem. Children strengthen the union, and do not become between parents, if they act together. Love should be enough for everyone, but a little man will receive more attention for a certain period of time (up to 1 year), and there is nothing to worry about. Especially since it passes.
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