It is believed that admiring yourself — the prerogative of women. However, among men there are also lovers to admire their far-fetched irresistibility. These are narcissists, and not matured boys with off-scale self-importance, lack of empathy and egocentric personality type. Where does narcissism come from in men and how to recognize a representative of this fraternity, we will tell in this article. And at the same time, we will share tips on how to build a relationship with such a man and need whether
- Where does narcissism come from men
- How to expose a narcissist already on the first date
- Is possible to be happy in a pair daffodil
Where does narcissism come from men
Oddly strange, but a kissed, spoiled sissy, and a downtrodden, twitchy son of despotic parents can become a narcissist. In the first case, a man will be sure that he is the best simply because he was told this from birth. In the second, on the contrary, all his life he will prove that he is worthy of love and admiration, demonstrating by his behavior "look how good I am." In any case, the life credo of the narcissist becomes "Love yourself, there is no one else."
In today's society, narcissism among men is far from rare. A signal is being broadcast to guys from everywhere: be cool — means to be handsome/buffed/rich, and preferably all at once and without effort. Society does not need defenders, strong helpers, reliable and smart partners. Society needs self-centered consumers. Logically, in such conditions, narcissism flourishes.
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How to expose a narcissist already on the first date
Despite the fact that — an extremely unpleasant type, he does complain lack of female attention. And all because the unshakable confidence in one's own irresistibility attracts and disorientates. Narcissus is impossible not to notice, and it is not at all necessary that he will be handsome. How to recognize this type of men in time and not get involved in a hopeless relationship? At the first same meeting, pay attention to the following signs of narcissism:
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He only talks about himself in a positive way. Narcissists don like talk about their failures, listening to him, one gets the impression that his whole life — a series of resounding victories and successes. Everywhere he was the best, everything worked out from the first time, and if he not became an emperor, it only because he is surrounded by spiteful petty envious people.
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Not interested in others. Asking him about close relatives or friends, the most you can get is some general information. Why even waste time talking about others, it distracts from narcissism.
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Avoiding specifics. It is enough to ask about success at work or in study in for for letters, awards, promotions, as it turns out that not so everyone rosy. Therefore, in such cases, the narcissist mumbles something incomprehensible and evades a specific answer.
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Inattentive to the interests and desires of others. You asked for coffee, and he ordered you green tea? Just think, what nonsense, and in general, what we were just talking about, ah yes... about me.
- Does participate in social causes.
The narcissist is not interested in volunteering, nor charity work, anything that involves helping others. He has zero empathy, so he listens to stories about human troubles openly bored. If he listens at all.
- Not thanks.
You showed the way, helped collect the papers that fell out, and the answer was only "yup"? It is absolutely normal for a narcissist to help him — it is a reward in itself
It not to notice narcissism in men is difficult, such types rarely disguise themselves and even on the first date they cannot resist constant self-admiration and a stream of self-admiration.
Highlights — approach everything critically and not melt with delight, they say, what a great person is next to me. Not great, but boastful boy. If after the first date it seemed to you that the young man was not very attentive to you, it did not seem. It’s better not to deceive yourself, and smoothly reduce communication to minimum.
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What to do if a wave of love has covered you and all alarm bells have been missed? Is it possible to re-educate a narcissist and become a harmonious couple? Alas, but narcissism in men — yes and and women, to be honest — This is a defect that is difficult to correct. You can lay your whole life at the feet of this king, and in the answer get nothing. But, oddly enough, there is a type of woman who will only be satisfied with such a relationship. We will tell you in which cases a marriage with a narcissist can be successful.
If you really, really believe in everything that a narcissist tells about himself, then it's easy to imagine such a world where he unrecognized genius, and she is a true muse. Such a union will be indestructible, since everyone gets in it what they want. Narcissus — mute admiration and unconditional service, his girlfriend — a gleam of invented glory and genius that falls on her and fills life with meaning.
A caring mom.A woman who passionately wants to protect someone and surround her with love can find an ideal life partner in a narcissus. He will constantly demand attention and words of love, and she will give it to him and rejoice that finally in her life there is an "eternal child" who cannot cope on his own.
And in general, it's better to stay away from these guys, ideally — do not attract their attention at all.A narcissist man is subconsciously drawn to insecure, weak women, whose will is easy to subdue. He will not put out a strong and successful woman next to him, taking away the attention of others from he. Therefore, the best prevention of the appearance of such types in your life — self-confidence and inner harmony.
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