I like a work colleague: the pitfalls of an office romance and how to get around them

An office romance has long ceased to be an extraordinary event. What's more, many relationships that began in the office continue into a strong and happy marriage. But more often, one of the sides of such a novel (and and     both) regret that they succumbed to feelings and spoiled their reputation and career.

So it is why to go for a reason of heart if you like a colleague at who, you think, also looks at you  special” look?

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I like a colleague at work: how not to hurt my career

If you are crazy about love a colleague, don rush to make plans for a joint future, even if it only concerns the coming weekend. First of all, make sure that the partner of your heart is single, and is not in a relationship of any "level of complexity" — he is not dating       not married. This is, perhaps, the only thing that others will not forgive you under any circumstances: a relationship with a married man. You will forever remain in their eyes' eyes as an insidious seductress who provoked someone else's husband to treason and tried to destroy the family.

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The following "Safety" instructions slightly easier to do, but does mean they are less important:

• If your relationship with colleague is going well — don't rush to advertise them.It may be that you are not the only liker, and a less fortunate colleague will make attempts to realize his feelings of resentment and jealousy, using a career field. In addition, if something goes wrong, your affair will become the subject of discussion and the cause of your embarrassment, when every time you mention the name of a colleague you like, you will feel curious looks on yourself.

• Clearly separate personal and workspaces, and ask your man to do the same.Don don don accept courtesies during worktime, don single out your colleague from others by extolling his achievements and  do not use demonstrative "punishments" to show that everyone at work is equal to you. This is unlikely to look convincing, but it will form an opinion about you as an unbalanced person.

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• Take into account the feelings of others. If you there are people in the team who are unhappy in personal lives, have recently separated from husband or wife, or are widowed, it will be unpleasant for them to observe the development of your passionate novel. As a result, this will form a not  healthy atmosphere in the team and will affect the work as a whole. Try to take all personal moments out of office, and behave at work like a professional who performs his duties without being distracted by internal experiences.

• Never and under no circumstances discuss your relationship with a colleague.

  people — call a friend, mother or any other close person at lunchtime. Share with colleagues the details of an office romance — it means provoking an endless wave of discussions, speculation and gossip, which are unlikely to reflect well on your career and business reputation.

In a word, keep your feelings under control. This is the most difficult and  unpleasant part of even the happiest office romance, but you must understand what you are getting into when building a relationship with a colleague.

If you do everything right, then, regardless of the outcome — long-term relationship or marriage with a colleague, or separation from   — you will only strengthen your reputation and enlist the support of the entire team. Colleagues will see you as a woman who is not alien to feelings, but who is able to keep them under control and not put personal life above relationships in the team.

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If your novel received a "positive" development and you plan your future life together with colleague — no special rules needed. During the time during which your relationship was formed and strengthened, the team most likely got used to the fact that you — couple, and stopped paying special attention to this fact.

But if things didn not go your way and you had to break up — be prepared to be for for a while you will become the subject of 1.

Be guided by your own condition and by the circumstances of the break. If you remained friends and the parting happened calmly and by mutual consent, there is no point in changing anything. It is unlikely you will be confused by curious glances in your direction — during the time of the novel, you have become accustomed to them. Moreover, your calmness will very soon deprive this situation of piquancy — colleagues will simply have nothing to discuss.

But if the breakup was traumatic and painful, it might make sense to take a vacation. When you return from it you will be more stable emotionally, the passions in the team will subside and this will allow you to assess the situation more rationally.

Follow us on Telegram If your man turned out to be morally unscrupulous and presented your breakup in an unfavorable light for you, the daily presence in a hostile team can be sheer torture. Assess the situation objectively. Will can handle the pressure for an indefinite amount of time (this can go on for several months) without compromising your career and health? If not — it makes sense to consider changing jobs as an option.

Never and do start a cold war with an ex-boyfriend and t tend the cup of public opinion in your own favor through intrigue and manipulation. It doesn not bring you satisfaction and does solve the problem, but discredits you as a professional.

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