Since the beginning of time, hair has been considered one of the most important attributes of femininity, sexuality, energy and temptation – and associatively always remain associated with these representations. Therefore, dissatisfaction with hair has deeper roots than it seems at first glance, even if we do not realize it.
Why do we want to curl straight hair and straighten curly hair?
Most owners of wavy hair dream of smooth, flowing and absolutely straight hair. And women with straight hair – about a mop of curls.
We don't like the color, texture, hardness or softness. Without paint and styling products, we seem to ourselves without clothes – as if the mask falls off, and we appear before the world as we are – plain and mediocre.
Every hairdresser is well aware of this problem: clients always want to have what they don't have. The art of the master lies precisely in bridging the gap between dream and reality.
This inconsistency appears to occur in early childhood. Women undergoing psychoanalysis, during the sessions, sooner or later mention how their mother treated their hair. Someone was gently combed, stroked, praised, and someone – impatiently pulled to braid into tight braids, the third was allowed to show off with her hair loose. The mother's attitude has a major impact on the formation of our sexual identity.
The memory of this close connection will be associatively reproduced later, including how we treat our hair. Childish pleasures and sorrows will partly pass and be overcome, but some part of them will be experienced again and again
Hair associatively reflects the animal basis of our sexuality – thick, bright and shiny, they excite the opposite sex.
A way to showcase your hair to the world – whether you are proud of loose curls, cut your hair short or tie it in a tight knot – can tell a lot about your relationship to your own sexuality and sex appeal.
If you feel jealous of someone's hair because it is thick/red/dark/curly etc., you unconsciously tend to at least partially introject the sexual power we attribute to this image.
Mostly, if we crave what we (seem to) lack, we experience an acute sense of incompleteness in our personality. The desire to change yourself – it is always a desperate longing for the heavenly state of infant wholeness.
The new hairstyle indicates a love of control
We project onto our hair ideas of our own identity, of who we are. When these dreams are very different from the real image, we are unhappy with our appearance. At the same time, those radical and rapid changes that we can subject our hair to create the feeling that just as easily and in the blink of an eye we can magically change our personality.
By changing the hair color or getting a new haircut, we really change our whole image, which means – we change ourselves. Sometimes we highlight a certain aspect of our identity that was previously neglected or uncomfortable.
So, the process of cutting hair can symbolize the liberation from something superfluous or boring: ideas, feelings, dependence, routine. Leaving "unnecessary" parts of ourselves on the floor of the barbershop, we kind of send a signal to the world: let life change its vector, we are ready for change!
The new hairstyle, which opens the forehead, symbolizes our readiness to fearlessly move forward and face difficulties. And if, in addition, the hair is raised above the forehead (bouffant or hairpin) – it often signifies a desire for power and control.
The left parting is more common in people who find it difficult to accept their own femininity, and on the right side, those who find it difficult to accept the masculine component of their own nature separate the hair.
The central parting most often indicates the inner harmony of the owner and her balance.
Strongly smoothed or radically shaved temples demonstrate emancipation and willingness not to impede the freedom of others, as well as the desire to know people and yourself. On the contrary, closed whiskey – characteristic trait of an introvert.
Bangs are in many cases preferred by shy women, and the density of the bangs corresponds to the degree of their need for protection. Although these connections should not be overestimated. Often bangs are only an element of facial features adjustment: a woman has not become shy, but simply wants to look younger and more perky.
Bright and radical colors are preferred by people who strive for freedom and the removal of restrictions. Those who choose redheads tend to want to deviate from standard schemes and break taboos.
Bright black is chosen by the owners of a harsh principled character. And if you decide to become a blonde, most likely, you strive to emphasize femininity and demonstrate the need for love.
What do we feel when we leave the barbershop? Feeling of lightness. Freedom. New self. We have become more feminine or, on the contrary, more emancipated, but in any case – sexier and more harmonious.
Our hair – an occasion to declare one's own moods, ambitions, social status and self-attitude. It is the barometer of our soul, the sacred laboratory where we experiment with our own identity. And relationships with them sometimes reveal more truth about us than the most frank words.
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