How do we realize that we have a confident person in front of us? How do they develop confidence, and what body movements, gestures broadcast it to others? Immediately, we note that imitation of inner strength is difficult. An observant person, a subtle psychologist will definitely “figure out” whether the interlocutor is absolutely confident in himself or all the actions taken are just pure posturing and feigned confidence. The material presented below will be useful to anyone who would like to learn how to determine self-confidence by the gestures of others, broadcast consciously or unconsciously. This very useful skill can be useful in business negotiations, discussions, and disputes.
What characterizes a person's inner confidence
The feeling of inner confidence of the individual is based on 3 "pillars": gait, posture, demeanor. In the first moments of acquaintance with a person, we unconsciously evaluate these 3 basic factors. Later, the impression can be supplemented, polished, but it is unlikely to undergo drastic changes. That is why it is so important to make the right impression at the beginning of communication.
Our personality, attitude towards ourselves and our own perception is very accurately reflected by posture. Both stooped and sloping, "aspiring" down shoulders demonstrate to others your insecurity, lack of independence, and sometimes helplessness. But straightened shoulders, a straight back, a slightly raised chin, arms that give the impression of strength at rest and do not hang limply like two whips, testify to your confidence.
Styling a confident posture is by no means easy, because it requires keeping your shoulders straight all the time, and it is difficult for a person who is not used to such a position to do this: he will be tense all the time, and as a result – will inevitably give the impression of a restrained and insecure person.
The gait of a person also, like a mirror, conveys his inner state. A self-confident person steps widely, sweepingly, swiftly, which indicates the activity, enthusiasm, energy of a person. The firmness and precision of his gait demonstrates to the world his inner strength. Such a person walks, as if crushing the space under him.
The manner of carrying on is perhaps the main component of the image of a person.
And by the way he "serves" himself, you can understand the degree of his confidence. When we see a person endowed with inner strength, it seems that he is rooted in the earth and is not easily shaken. But at the same time, such an image does not leave the impression of heaviness.
Usually, a self-confident person stands with their legs spread about shoulder-width apart, with their toes slightly turned outward. He stands, not leaning forward or backward (such leaning, by the way, makes a very negative impression on those with whom he comes in contact), rather firmly.
Signs of a confident person: let's talk about gestures
Your interlocutor is completely confident in himself if, when communicating, he adopts such a position of legs and arms in which they do not cross each other.
A lot about the degree of a person's inner strength can be told by the way he shakes hands. In an imperious, confident personality, the handshake is strong, but not heavy, not squeezing the palm and fingers. The hand of such a person is dry and warm, and shaking the palm of his counterpart, he holds his own on top.
A self-confident person never lowers his gaze when communicating, and does not take his eyes off to the side. His gaze is directed into the eyes of the interlocutor. A person can also demonstrate to the world confidence in the correctness of his position with the help of such a gesture: the fingers touch each other and the "design" created in this way is a kind of spire, the tip of which is directed upwards.
Do you want to learn to recognize if you are really dealing with a person endowed with inner psychological self-confidence, or are you being misled? Еstet-portal.com hopes that the proposed material will help you figure it out.
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