Second marriage in terms of psychology

Unfortunately, divorce – is quite common, especially if partners married at a fairly early age. Once madly lovers and young spouses become strangers and do not see friend in friend those people with whom they were once in love and started a joint path. After the first marriage is dissolved, the ex-husband and wife enjoy freedom for the first time, and then , fully satiated with such a situation, they begin to search for a new love. Read the article on how to avoid the same mistakes in the second marriage as in the first.

There are several types of second marriages. The first one – is the marriage of a divorced man to a young woman. Often their union also becomes the reason for the collapse of a man's first marriage. A middle-aged man is attracted by an easy, unencumbered connection, his energy, masculine strength, and enthusiasm are renewed. And he leaves his former family in the hope of building a new happy future. A young woman likes the maturity of her chosen one, his social viability, status, she admires him and at the same time feels the care of her father.   

Most often, such marriages are built on a "parent" and "child" pattern of behavior, and it is quite compatible and successful. If this type of relationship is maintained, then the marriage can last happily ever after. But often over time, the young woman matures personally and leaves the role of the child. And then she begins to claim her "adults" right, not with such reverence for the thoughts and actions of her elder husband, which cannot but undermine the mutual idyll. Also, an unfavorable factor for such a marriage can be children from a previous marriage, who need to be helped financially and spend time with them. The sexual sphere may decrease in its activity over time due to the difference in the ages of the spouses.  

The second type of marriage is when both partners are divorced and have children of their own. As a rule, both partners have experience of married life, are more rationally tuned in to married life, have fewer illusions and faith in unquenchable love, but at the same time they are less flexible and change their habits more slowly.  Often the child or children of the wife live in a new family with a stepfather. This is where a number of problems arise. First, raising your children is much easier. Secondly, often children are not very happy with someone who takes away some of their mother's love from them. Thirdly, his own father, who, by his very existence, increases the uncertainty of his stepfather. All these problems can be solved if a woman is wise, and a man really tries to improve the upbringing of her children. And, as a rule, in such a marriage, both spouses value relationships and try to maintain them.  &

But it often happens that a second marriage – it's like stepping on the same rake. A woman who has an alcoholic first husband chooses a second one. A man married for the first time to a hysteric marries a hysteric again. In this regard, after a divorce, it is recommended not to enter into a new relationship immediately, but to be alone for some time to determine what suits you and what – no, what you can tolerate and what is not acceptable to you. And it is desirable to undergo a course of psychotherapy so that the second marriage is based on mutual understanding and does not repeat the first. After all, adaptive personalities more often draw the right conclusion from a previous marriage and choose a more suitable partner, behave more reasonably and tactfully. And then their second marriage is happier and stronger. What we wish you too!

Source estet-portal.com