50 signs of an unhealthy relationship

Loneliness scares us. And driven by the fear of being alone, we often find ourselves trapped in unhealthy relationships. Such relationships are remarkable in that they bring a person much more bad than good. However, realizing that ideal relationships do not exist, and also for one reason or another, we are not always able to adequately assess the nature of the relationship. 

There is hope that your partner one day will change and realizeshow much he these relationships are precious. But the probability of such a reincarnation is negligible, so it’s worth considering how much more negative emotions than positive such a union brings. , finally, severing a relationship that has long resembled "a suitcase without a handle". If Do you feel that breaking the connection with partner, You breathe with relief — stop torturing yourself and him, because it will only be worse, of course if suddenly a miracle will happen. Is it worth waiting for changes for the better & nbsp; The list of criteria below will help you figure it out.      xxxx> suddenly a miracle will happen. Is it worth waiting for changes for the better & nbsp; The list of criteria below will help you figure it out.      xxxx> suddenly 

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1. Cheating. 

2. Inability to listen. If you partner are not able to listen to each other's arguments on controversial issues, this leads to scandals, the purpose of which is to shout each other down. This often leaves the problem unresolved. 

3. Your partner is trying to cut you off from friends and family. 

4. You don't turn to each other for emotional help. If you feel bad, you are more likely to turn to any other person, but not to your half. 

5. Your partner considers himself smart, and you – dumb (dumb) We are talking about phrases like "you still won't understand." 

6. Your partner is not able to adequately perceive your refusal. 

7. Your partner thinks you are only good at one thing. For example, he/she believes that apart from being attractive or being able to earn money, there is nothing of value in you. 

8. You don't influence each other positively. Those. your circle of interests has not expanded thanks to a partner, you have not become better thanks to him/her. 

9. Your partner influences you badly or vice versa – You are a bad influence on him. An example of such an influence would be bad habits. 

10. Your partner constantly points out your shortcomings and makes you feel inferior (inferior). 

11. You are not sure about the strength of your relationship (constantly converge and disperse). Lack of confidence in your common tomorrow – bad sign. 

12. You are forced to do things that you don't like. For example, swearing.

13. Your partner ignores your emotions, especially when you are scared. 

14. Partner engages you in unethical or illegal activities. 

15. You feel that you have become a worse person than you were at the beginning of the relationship. 

16. You feel like you can't get your partner's attention when you need it. For example, he/she constantly looks at the computer monitor and misses your words. 

17. The partner mimics you and jokes with you evilly. 

18. The partner does not believe in your success or does not rejoice in it with you. 

19. You cannot trust your partner, you are afraid of being misunderstood (misunderstood) and you are not sure of the adequacy of your partner's reaction to your appeal.

20. Your partner jokes about leaving you in the future. For example, "I will find myself younger / richer / prettier, etc."  

21. When you are at a distance from each other, you do not communicate. For example, during a business trip, a trip to your parents, etc. 

22. If in a conflict situation the partner does not accept any options other than his own. Those. "either do it my way or get out the door." 

23. You are not sure whether you can rely on a partner when necessary. For example, if you or someone important to you becomes seriously ill.      

24. You blame your partner for not living the way you want because of him (or your partner blames you for the same). 

25. The partner ignores your interests and projects. He/she only considers his own interests, not how important these things may be to you. 

26. Silence. One of the two of you refuses to talk about serious topics: children, marriage, etc. 

27. You don't think your partner will be a good parent. 

28. After a hard day at work, you prefer to go to a bar rather than home to your soulmate. 

29. You manage your life together poorly, for example, spending more than you earn. 

30. You can't name a single thing where you and your partner could be a great team. 

31. Your partner often brings unpleasant surprises, such as credit card debt. 

32. Your partner is constantly lying. 

33. The partner does not tell you where he/she is going, does not come home on time and has no logical excuse for this. 

34. You worry that your partner will do something terrible, like hit you. 

35. You feel trapped in a relationship. 

36. During an argument, one of you simply takes a defensive stance and does not provide any valid counterarguments. 

37. During an argument, you tend to blame each other for something instead of pleading guilty. 

38. You constantly criticize each other, emphasize the imperfection of your partner. 

39. A partner throws mud at you or complains about you to friends. 

40. You lie to people because you are ashamed of your partner's behavior. For example, find excuses for why you came to a party alone. 

41. When you are together, you feel alone (lonely). 

42. If you were to rate your partner on a scale from 1 to 10, taking into account his cordiality, reliability and degree of trust, your score would be less than 5. 

43. You can't remember a single time your partner compromised. 

44. There is no tenderness in your relationship; You don't kiss, touch or smile at each other. 

45. Partner forces you to have sex. 

46. The partner considers himself the best in the relationship. He/she thinks that you are lucky with him/her, and not vice versa. 

47. Your partner emotionally keeps you at arm's length. You don't feel an emotional connection. 

48. Your partner often emphasizes your inferiority by comparing you with others. For example: "But Tolik's wife cooks better than you." 

49. During an argument, you quickly move on to threats like "if you don't shut up, I'll hit you" or "if you don't listen to me, I'll leave." 

50. You can name a few friends/acquaintances/colleagues with whom you would prefer to be in a relationship.  And separately, in order to emphasize the importance of this issue, we will take out violence in relationships (domestic violence).

Remember that it's never okay to be in a relationship where there's room for violence.  Of course, ideal relationships are rare in nature. Therefore, if you ticked off a couple of items on this list, it's okay – just try to solve the marked problems together.  If you are painfully familiar with a large number of "alarm bells", think about whether you need such an unhealthy relationship.