Today's age difference. when a wife is a couple of dozen younger than her husband, no one is particularly surprised. There are a great many examples of this. But what makes mature men choose young companions as their wives? It is difficult to unambiguously answer this question. It is better to turn to the recent history of our country.
The midlife crisis is not a myth, but a fact!
Change in hormonal background is reflected in the behavior of men. They begin to understand that their "time" will soon end and this greatly affects the psychological state. Whatever age they are, the most basic for them is the degree of "male dignity", which they "measure" with each other all their lives. After all, this is an important indicator of sexuality and success in life.
Today, men who fall into a period of "midlife crisis", those who are 40-50 years old. Our country is 20 years old. By simple calculations, one can imagine that at the age of 20-30 they had to go through the times of the formation of a new business. It was during these 15-20 years that they worked hard and often took risks. Everyone started in the same conditions, but some were able to make a breakthrough in life, others were not.
Business in our country at that time was not entirely legal or, quite frankly, criminal. At this time, our heroes married girls who loved them, and the feelings were based on full and unconditional acceptance. It was at this time that successful men looked like Robin Hoods. And in fact, in essence, they were such - they took away from the rich and gave to the poor. It is easy to fall in love with such men! On the one hand, they were bandits, and on the other, romantics. And they knew how to risk their lives and relax.
One of the first indicators of their success was the presence of a wife who quit her job and enjoys life. "My husband does not allow me to work" - this phrase was synonymous with "life is good!". But years passed, and the Robin Hood boys miraculously turned into politicians and respected businessmen. Today they have everything: power, money, pleasure. And in this beautiful picture, one small flaw is missing - youth.
The phenomenon of selection: I look at you as in a mirror
People don't always see their reflection in the mirror, but they do see their wives grow old and their children grow up. Much has been done, much has been built...
The taste of Absolut vodka and Chesterfield cigarettes have been replaced by expensive wines and cigar clubs. And so I want to live beautifully and correctly! "Rich life" and the flattery of subordinates very easily change real life to a fictional one. The new environment, friends, social circle - everything is very aristocratic, there is only one bad luck - the old wife.
Years have passed and no one taught to maintain family relationships for 20-30 years, but it turns out to be very difficult. How easy it is to get carried away by a charming and seductive young lady! Girls of this generation lead a healthy lifestyle, look after their appearance, are stylish, educated and speak foreign languages. It is not only beautiful, but also comfortable.
There is such a phenomenon in psychology, when a person gets into a pack of animals, he begins to adopt their behavior, because he associates himself with them. The same principle applies to people who choose younger partners. They choose the environment as mirrors in which they can see their reflection. That is why it is very important for such men to surround themselves with sports cars, boats, motorcycles, young wives and small children, creating the illusion of youth: “If I see everything around me of the highest class, then I belong to it, everything is subject to ME and my whole life is ahead! "
Such a life choice is the place to be. I would only like to wish happiness to the young wives and wisdom to the first wives!
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