The heroine of this fairy tale - the village girl Elsa - experienced constant excitement. Presenting the future in gloomy colors, she so infected others with her unfounded fears that they began to grieve with her. And in our time, there are many such Els, whose state of mind psychiatrists have defined as a syndrome of constant anxiety.
Intelligent Syndrome
This syndrome is characteristic of women who are quite intellectually developed and well-read. It manifests itself in increased anxiety, in anticipation of inevitable misfortunes and catastrophes, and hence in the desire to control everything. It is very difficult for both men and children to live with such women.
Men are constantly suspected of treason, a vast and vivid picture of his betrayal is drawn. In this regard, constant calls, constant monitoring. If the husband is delayed, again, a developed imagination draws deplorable situations of his death or accidents. & nbsp;
And the children of such women are even less fortunate. Since the fear that something bad will happen to them is huge, "Smart Elsa" trying to protect their children from any manifestations of life. They can’t go anywhere, they can’t try anything or start anything, in general, they can’t live. Overprotection extends throughout the life of their children, so the latter grow up as amorphous personalities, do not create a family, do not build a career and do not achieve success.
But women themselves live the hardest of all. After all, they are in constant physical and psychological stress, caused by fear and the need to control everything. Hence fatigue and exhaustion.
The roots of this syndrome come from childhood. Usually, in childhood, parents sent double messages (“I love you so much”, while the face is riddled with anger) or were inconsistent in their manifestations (in the same situations they reacted differently, for example, if a child fell, then they scold him , then regret). Then the child understood that the world is dangerous, since his parents are not able to be stable and safe. Also messages like: “Do not go far, otherwise they will steal!”, “Do not swim behind the buoys, otherwise you will drown!”, “You don’t need to go there, nothing will work!” form an anxious and insecure personality. And now a woman grows up, educated and smart, with the realization that the world is dangerous and there are only enemies around. Of course, you expect only trouble from the world, but as you know, thoughts are material, and all the expected bad things happen all the time. Confirming the idea of a dangerous world and bad people.
Alarm level: going down
What to do? First, learn to notice the good. Recall the past day and note only the positive moments (ignore the negative ones for now). Do this exercise for 21 days (habit forming time) and gradually you will find that you think more positively and anxiety decreases.
Learn to relax your body. It is known that in a healthy body — healthy spirit. By learning to relax physically, you will notice how emotional stress also subsides. You can use Jacobson's muscle relaxation exercises, & nbsp; also gymnastics for the body and face of Elena Stoyanova.
At the moment when your anxiety is going through the roof, take a sheet, pencils and draw, draw “scribbles”, draw your anxiety, your fear, and when you feel that your energy has decreased, burn the drawing. And read the Brothers Grimm's fairy tale "About Clever Elsa". In the end, she was left alone, useless and unaware of who she herself was. You don't want that, do you?
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