The term "abusive relationship" has become very popular on the Internet for a reason – many people live in an abusive relationship for many years, unaware of the presence of psychological abuse. The statistics are harsh: every fourth woman and every seventh man suffers from domestic violence.
Physical domestic violence is easy enough to recognize, but things get more complicated when it comes to psychological abuse. As a rule, people in abusive relationships are afraid to change something and get out of the "victim-tyrant" scenario.
Moreover, the long course of such a relationship is fraught with nervous breakdowns and psychosis.
Read on estet-portal.com about the signs of abuse and how to avoid psychological abuse in a relationship.
The abuser: where does the psychopath-despot behavior model come from
In the psychotherapeutic sense, abusers are often individuals with narcissistic personality disorders.
This person has a whole "bouquet" of psychological traumas, phobias and childhood complexes, which, as a rule, are associated with the figure of the mother.
In such families, mothers often showed coldness towards the child or could not be near him for a long time.
The cruel parental upbringing also has an impact on the formation of this personality.
Usually men are the psychological abusers, but there is an increasing trend of women being the emotional abusers.
In general, abusers do not become from the sweet life and not even of their own free will. Abusers can be not only your partners, but also parents, friends and closest people.
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Warning signs of an abusive relationship: attention to detail
The signs of abuse cannot be counted on the fingers of both hands. However, it is possible to highlight the striking features of the psychological abuser and the characteristics of his behavior.
These include:
- expressed negative attitude towards former partner or partner;
- disrespectful attitude towards you and your life principles;
- imposing help that you didn't ask for or showing generosity;
- pervasive control to the point of absurdity;
- violation of personal boundaries, when you do not have time for yourself and your interests;
- boundless jealousy for everything: whether it be parents, friends or a person passing by;
- constant accusations: because the abuser is always right! The slightest oversight – shooting;
- the presence of a system of double standards: "I can, you can't"
- Abuser is attracted to vulnerability or vice versa – strength;
- constant criticism of you;
- aggressiveness in showdown: can hit or hurt, scream, punch against the wall, threaten, behaves like an angry bull.
Often, abusers use gaslighting: they make their victims question their adequacy and the reality of what is happening.
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Abusive relationships: what to do and how to avoid repeating the scenario
If you realize that you are in a relationship with an abuser – this is an excuse to say goodbye in English. Or whatever you want, but say goodbye.
Certainly, you can contact a psychologistand deal with this problem together. There is a chance of behavior change if your abuser still has the rudiments of adequacy and understanding. However, as statistics show, such unions still break up sooner or later. Provided that the victim lives to see that happy breakup moment.
Try to set clear personal boundaries, don't be afraid to fight back, explain your feelings in a calm tone.
If this doesn't work, the partner has no desire to change himself – pack your bags.
The abuser will never change without your own desire and understanding of the problem, and you will never become happy or happy with such a person. Appreciate, love yourself and stay strong.
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