There are many random people in our lives, from whom we often hear inappropriate advice. And naturally, we ignore such attempts to interfere with our careers, personal relationships, or parenting. But there are also close people whose sincerity we doubt and it is the main threat to our well-being comes from them. How can this be? Quite simply, if they give us bad advice that we shouldn't listen to for good enough reasons.
- Bad advice from loved ones: why you shouldn always listen
- Parents' Tips: "Pink Glasses" and high expectations
- Advice from close friends: recklessness and jealousy
- Colleague Tips: Playing a Broken Phone
- Advice is forbidden: when even the most valuable advice turns out to be harmful
Bad advice from loved ones: why you shouldn always listen
Parents, friends, colleagues — people who participate in our lives in one way or another can treat your failures with genuine concern and with such sincere joy for your successes. But at the same time, their advice can seriously harm.
Parents' advice: "pink glasses" high expectations
Moms and dads sincerely believe that their children — the best. And based on the drawing the wrong conclusions about problems at the work of son daughter ( everyone just envy you»), about failures in personal relationships ( He is unworthy of you») and other situations.
Parents are very rarely able to be critical of their children and that is why they can do much harm with their advice. In addition, they will always be too picky about your friends, admirers, life partner and colleagues, and will believe that these people got a real treasure in the form of you. But at the same time, parents have excellent instincts, and if they claim that your partner — if not the person you want, you should sever sever immediately break up with but it is good to take a closer look
Advice from close friends: recklessness and jealousy
Friends' advice is the most dangerous when it comes to your relationship with the man of your dreams. On the one hand, friends may truly believe that you will easily find another hundred such men, and not understand — why are so obsessed with this type.
A c on the other hand, between close friends there will always be jealousy that does not allow you to think rationally. And & nbsp; even the best friend or girlfriend is able, unwittingly, to contribute to & nbsp; the collapse of your relationship. They want you to be happy, but they are not ready to accept the fact that they have to share you with someone.
So listen to their advice, but make all decisions yourself.
But friends are always ready to tell you the truth in eyes. And if you see that all your friends are unanimously against your chosen one — try to assess the qualities of this person more critically.
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Colleague Tips: Playing with broken phone
The working team may include people whom you respect sincerely and appreciate their professional and personal qualities. Naturally, from time to time you will want to share your problems with such a colleague and, to be honest, get useful advice from an experienced and wise person.
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But the problem is that a colleague knows about your problems only from your words, and cannot objectively judge what what is happening. You describe to him not events, but your grievances, pain, jealousy, fears, and the colleague gets a distorted idea of what worries you. But in situations that such a person observes personally (your conversation with boss, a conflict with another colleague, etc.), he can give you invaluable advice with his advice.
Advice is forbidden: when even the most valuable advice turns out to be harmful
Regardless of whoever is giving you advice, brush aside thoughts of following such instructions if they relate to:
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Your marital status. Whether to get married, get divorced, live in a free marriage, stay forever alone — decisions about your life can only be made by you, and nobody else.
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Your financial situation. Tips on how to make money easier and faster are usually given by people who themselves can barely make ends meet. Are sure you need their advice?
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Your health. The only advice people have the right to give — visit a doctor. All other advice, like " I had exactly the same illness and everything went away after a week of fasting" — a disservice to you and your health.
In a word, use a healthy dose of skepticism when evaluating such advice. After all, experienced people know that the road to hell is paved not only with good intentions, but and the advice of well-wishers to which we listen to.
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