Vasilisa the Wise was good to everyone. And she knew how to cook, and sew, and her face was beautiful, and she even married the Tsarevich to herself, being in the form of a frog. The Tsarevich burned the frog's skin - and she, turning into a white swan, flew out the window. Thus began the path of Ivan Tsarevich for Vasilisa, on which he had to go through fire and water and get the death of Koshchei.
Looking closer, it is not difficult to discern the meaning in the metaphors of burning Vasilisa's skin and the reciprocal sacrifices of the Tsarevich (in the form of loss of peace and security). Each of us must shed a piece of the past, give up a part of the former self, entering a new life stage, whether it be a new business, a new job, and especially a new relationship.
We have already written about what should not be sacrificed for the sake of a man in a relationship. Let's talk about what changes are worth making for the sake of a loved one, what you can refuse and how.
Time
As Mariah Carey sang, "love takes time" - love takes time. We happily spend days and nights with our loved ones, not noticing the flow of time. Instead of many hours of "cracking" on the phone with a friend, we discuss the past working day with our beloved, choose ties for him or prepare exotic salads. Yes, we may not be enough for something - we devote less time to friends, work, hobbies - but normally we do it with joy and voluntarily. Sometimes the awareness of the lack of time and the decrease in the intensity of extra-family activities causes irritation and fear. Take it easy. This is the normal rhythm of a woman's life in a couple.
However, it is very important to be able to keep in touch with people close to you and let your chosen one know how important they are to you. Then you can be sure that the man for whom you gave up Friday bachelorette parties and Saturday shopping is ready to take you to your friend at least at 3 am if you think that you urgently need to help her.
Residence
Historically, it is the man who builds the house and brings his wife there. The opposite situation is rather an exception to the rule. So, the decision about where you will live, regardless of the resources that each of you manages, should be made by a man. This is what will allow him to feel like the master of the life situation, responsible for your joint future. Nobody takes away from you the right to influence this decision by all available means (they still remember that a woman is a neck). But a man is a head, and this requires showing proper respect and obedience.
A habitual lifestyle
It is hardly possible to build a close relationship without changing your lifestyle, because there are no absolutely identical people and at the same time moving synchronously. The very presence of a beloved and significant Other with his individual characteristics forces us to “move over”. The main thing - let it be in pleasure and mutually. For example, like this.
My friend loves jazz very much. To her beloved (a fan of Korn and Rammstein), jazz music seems like a cacophony. Since they began to live together, she stopped listening to jazz at home all the time, as before. Her young man, in turn, also protects her ears. But the look of joy on his face makes her voluntarily turn on his favorite song at full volume when they drive together in a car - she even learned to enjoy it. And he willingly takes her to jazz concerts. True, he hardly listens to music - he looks at it.
Bad habits
This is exactly the reserve where you can "kill two birds with one stone". By quitting smoking because it is more pleasant for a young man to kiss a lady who smells of strawberries rather than cigarette smoke, you are investing not only in your relationship, but also in your own healthy future.
Sexy Rhythms
This is the part of life that requires special delicacy - disagreements here are experienced by close people especially sharply. When we take off our clothes, we appear unprotected before our loved ones, we also expose ourselves internally, expressing the most intimate emotions. In bed, as nowhere else, it is important not to lose the partner's trust and be sensitive and attentive to his desires. Equally important is the ability to be frank and, in turn, to express what you want from your partner in an accessible way. Do not close yourself from the new - the willingness to experiment and compromise will ultimately benefit you. Naturally, we are not talking about self-compulsion. But some self-provocation, pedaling one's own emotions are quite acceptable. Start - the appetite will appear in the process. And if not, gently offer to change the type of activity.
Rules for change
Career, style, daily leadership, hobbies, eating habits, circadian rhythms... The list of life changes that you can make while experiencing deep feelings for a person can be continued indefinitely. But this delicate process requires the observance of simple rules.
First, all changes must be voluntary. "Stepping on the throat of one's own song" is an absolutely hopeless exercise. Believe me, one day it will "explode" anyway, and all the suppressed negativity will pour out into emotions of exceptional strength that can destroy your love - that's what it all started for.
Secondly, compromises must be mutual. We do not suggest keeping a clear score like "56-57, next time it's your turn to concede!" However, everyone should feel that he is taking a step towards a partner walking towards him.
And thirdly, ultimatums and blackmail should not be allowed into relationships. Never, in any form and from no one's side.
Any meaningful relationship for us requires a lot of work on ourselves, in the process of which a common "we" is born from separate "I". Be hardworking, responsive to your partner and environmentally friendly to yourself - and the process of parting with frog skin will pass without pain and regrets, and the union you created will be strong, harmonious and happy.
Source estet-portal.com
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