Revealing femininity: debunking myths and understanding concepts

In any society there are always opposite tendencies. So, as a counterbalance to the total female emancipation, trainings appeared, at which ladies began to explain that their failures in their personal lives were associated with a lack of femininity. The problem is that people tend to go to extremes, so today there are women who are fanatically committed to the ideas of feminism, and those who sincerely believe that revealing femininity will solve all problems. The truth, as usual, is somewhere in the middle.

• The 4 most popular and destructive myths about femininity
• Myth 1. "Reference" a woman must be weak
• Myth 2. Dresses, perfumes, heels — the main attributes of femininity
• Myth 3. A woman should inspire a man
• Myth 4. A real woman doesn shouldn't work
• Femininity disclosure: what is it and do do 
• What femininity is and how it relates to weakness
• The main thing about femininity and its interpretation by modern society

4 of the most popular and destructive myths about femininity

According to dictionaries, femininity is considered to be a set of qualities that are expected from a woman. They usually include tenderness, caring, warmth, humility, fidelity. The combination of such properties is called weakness, therefore, a woman is prescribed to be weak. Hence the devastating myths that many women believe in.

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Myth 1. "Reference" a woman must be weak

Let's talk about reality. Can can just for a second imagine a weak woman raising worthy children? Mothers have to solve many tasks of various kinds every day, face problems, show discipline, will and resilience. There is no place for weakness and indecision, because we are talking about health and bringing offspring.

It is believed that only a weak and submissive woman can meet a determined and strong man who will burn with a desire to protect her. But look around! The stereotype doesn't always work. Often responsible and strong-willed men choose women who are equal in strength of spirit.

Perhaps it would be more correct not to separate character traits into purely female and male. They are universal. Men can just as well be loyal, submissive, emotionally fragile. And women should not consider themselves "not feminine enough" if they are able to withstand difficulties and solve serious problems.

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Myth 2. Dresses, perfumes, heels — the main attributes of femininity

Femininity most often begins with changes in clothes. Experimenting with style — that's not bad, but the thought of heels, floor skirts, perfume making a woman is strange. Yes, these things look beautiful, but often, naked girls in jeans and t-shirts look no worse. Any woman should look at herself in different images, but femininity has nothing to do with 

Myth 3. A woman should inspire a man

A woman's life is supposed to be directly dependent on her lover. He becomes the center of her personal universe. Such a woman takes responsibility for failures, vices and foolishness of her man, because, according to her logic, it was she who didn inspire her partner to feats.

There is a considerable percentage of men who need just such a woman, but there are those who are not interested in emotionally dependent partners. Endemic feminization has done its job, and many men are looking for personality in a woman. So is is it worth it to dissolve in a man if he doesn need it 

Myth 4. A real woman doesn't should work

There are plenty of women in the world who would rather be fully supported by men. But it shouldn't tie it to femininity as such. There are ladies for whom it is interesting and important what they do. They perfectly combine personal life and work. Moreover, a working woman is less likely to be left with nothing if the earner decides to find a replacement for her. Alas, this is often the case.

Disclosure of femininity: what is it and necessary whether

In recent years, we often hear quotations from the Vedas, which give instructions on femininity. But who read these Vedas and why are they considered an authoritative source? It is hardly possible to find intelligible answers to these questions. The revelation of femininity suggests that those who don meet certain standards are 'under-women'. Simply put, they impose an inferiority complex on us and immediately give advice on how to deal with it.

Women are convinced that by wearing a skirt, heels and learning to inspire men, they will find long-awaited happiness. If  the prince on doesn't ride a white horse, it means that femininity is not fully disclosed. This is very similar to the unscrupulous manipulation of the natural female need for love and family. It is hardly worth to accept dubious gurus and remake oneself to appropriate the ideals invented by no one knows.

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What femininity is and how it relates weakness

Female qualities are formed under the influence of the main biological function — motherhood, and depending on the place of the woman herself in society. Important properties of the mother — the ability to love and express love, understanding, the ability to support in difficult times. Can call this a weakness? It is unlikely, because for kindness, love and understanding, great fortitude is required.

Perfume and heels are often needed by a woman herself to feel more beautiful, but they don influence femininity in any way.

Each of we are originally born as a woman. There is no need to reveal anything about yourself, play roles or pretend.

If there are problems in personal life, then they can be dealt with with the help of a qualified psychologist at an individual consultation. You don't have to jump into  trainings like "Reveal Your Femininity" or “Stop being a Vedic wife and start living.” Extremes are harmful in any manifestation.

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The main thing about femininity and its interpretation by modern society

Don't trust the word of self-chosen prophets from the Vedas and run  trainings that will confuse you rather than help you solve your problems. There are many myths about femininity in society:

• "A woman must be weak."Look back at the whole difficult history of mankind. If women were weak, our kind wouldn't survive.

• "Femininity comes from the appearance."A skirt and perfume may make you more attractive, but it is not femininity.

• "A man must support a woman, and she his — inspire». Financial assistance of a man — it is important, but it should take responsibility for           s worth worth worth taking responsibility for self-fulfillment.

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Telegram You were born a woman. No additional disclosure of femininity is required. Playing other people's roles, you only wear out. Spend this energy on  something that you are truly interested in, something that inspires you personally, and not a partner or "Vedic guru".

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