How to improve relationships in a team so that work is a joy

When finding the perfect job, we take into account a number of nuances. Salary, social package, bonuses in the form of a free gym or career prospects.

The greater the disappointment becomes when, having found such a job, we understand that we have ended up in a toxic team. This can be ignoring a newcomer, unwillingness to help him get comfortable in a new place, and even deliberate sabotage.

Is possible to build relationships in a team so that work ceases to seem like torture? Interpersonal experts believe that this is possible if you follow a few rules.

• Team Relationships: Define Your Goal
• When your career is in danger of failure: what to do in difficult situations

Team Relationships: Define Your Goal

First of all, you should decide what you you want from the team and who you want to look like in the eyes of your colleagues:

• A professional in what you do. In this case, you need to establish yourself as a person who is set to achieve results. Only ask questions that substantially, and answer on                 s            the  This does not  mean that you should silently turn around and  leave or pretend not to hear the question of your marital status. It will be enough "closed" reply — a phrase that does not provoke the interlocutor and further show his interest. 

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• Narrow specialist. In this case, the definition of "narrow" has a conditional value. It's no secret that a new person in a team often tries to assign functions that are not related to his direct duties. If such a situation has developed (or you see that things are going to this) — firmly and calmly refuse a colleague who tries to shift his tasks onto you or distracts you from work in another way. 
  At first, you can even resort to a little trick: refuse to perform other people's duties under the pretext of your own employment.  

• The soul of the company. It's quite "thin"; a role that only a truly sociable and sociable person can play. In this case, you will make friends in a new team without any problems. Provided that you do not begin to impose your society on everyone. Choose the most open person in the interlocutors, and periodically keep him company during the lunch break, discuss planned or already past events.

Slowly expand your reach and don't hesitate to use the traditional methods of treating your co-workers with homemade cookies or offering to help decorate your office for the holiday.
But keep in mind that if you do this insincerely or tactless — you will be quickly «bitten» and instead of a reputation as a sociable person, you acquire the status of "sticky".

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When a career is in danger of failure: what to do in difficult situations

The biggest problem is the relationships in the  team, which deprive you of a sense of confidence and security. These may be attempts by colleagues to humiliate you in the eyes of management or undeservedly shift responsibility for someone's mistakes and blunders.

In only professionalism and decisiveness will help you in this case:

• Fulfill your direct duties qualitatively and in full. In this case, any accusations about your address will run into  from  the facts: what is in your competence is done at the highest level.

• Bring the discussion to to its logical conclusion. If you are unfairly accused of something, calmly and judiciously ask the right questions. So, if someone project failed and  they are trying to shift the blame for to you, ask: "Who worked on this project?" ","What part of my work did you think I didn do?" Your calmness and  lack of arguments from opponent will do the trick.

• And most importantly, don't get emotional.Remember that this is just a job, and not your whole life. Do not make hasty decisions under the influence of mood. Don't threaten your colleagues, don't fawn on them, and don demonstrate your superiority. Even tone, "businesslike" Your smile and professional attitude to your duties will make you a valuable team member in the eyes of management. And this is the basic thing you need for your successful career.

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