Psychologist: how to overcome the feeling of emptiness and apathy

How can you explain the feeling of inner emptiness? This is an emotional state that affects many. The feeling of inner emptiness, sadness, apathy - can become an alarm that should not be underestimated. In fact, the feeling of emptiness is one of the most difficult mental aspects, varying from the universal human experience in which one comes into contact with oneself. The feeling of inner emptiness includes various emotional experiences and is present in many psychological disorders, including narcissistic, borderline, and depressive disorders.

Do you wake up in the morning feeling like you have no reason to get up and live the day? You experience a feeling of inner emptiness. What is it connected with, what causes it and how to deal with it Estet-portal.com editorial staff considers in this material.

• False beliefs about feeling empty
• What are the main causes of inner emptiness
• How to fill the feeling of emptiness in in a healthy way

False beliefs about feeling empty

In our society, addictions are often a way to fill

feelings of inner emptiness and fear of being alone through gambling, alcohol, video games, shopping, cosmetic surgery, drugs, and even relationships. All pseudo-solutions give the impression that you can handle everything yourself. 

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The feeling of emptiness ("My life is empty", "I feel empty inside") and the fear of loneliness often push to start a relationship only because of the "need to fill" and not feel inner suffering, loneliness.

Many people feel inner emptiness based on several reasons:

Beloved does not pay enough attention
Longing for a man
No partner
Empty and boring life
Disappointment in work
No success
Lack of money
No friends
Lack of love, attention and approval from friends and relatives
No sex

Emotional anesthesia and

feeling of emptinessconstantly occur in various psychopathological symptoms:

• With narcissism, often because of the feeling of emptiness (which he carries within himself), a search is made for relationships that give strong emotions and the ability to avoid feelings of inner discomfort.
• In depression - often manifested by lack of purpose, loss of pleasure, unsatisfactory existence, which leads to the search for unhealthy forms of filling the feeling of emptiness, to which you can direct your inner suffering or be distracted with their help.
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• eating disorders, there is intense suffering and an internal emotional void that is often compulsively filled with food as a defense against uncontrollable emotions.

What are the main causes of inner emptiness

Addictions may work in the short term, taking the person away from inner suffering, but in the long term,

the feeling of emptiness inside returns, creating a strong feeling of loneliness, and trying to find a solution can turn into more serious problem.

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This action depends on the fact that all of these behaviors deal only with the

symptom of inner emptiness and not with the cause.

This happens because people struggle to cope with their feelings of sadness and loneliness, thinking that they can eventually disappear or vice versa, that the inner malaise is unsurpassed and destined forever. In fact, in order to

combat loneliness, you have to go through sadness and feelings of emptiness. This is the only way to strengthen yourself in comparison with the fear of loneliness and build the perception of "sufficient for yourself", that is, the confidence that you can rely on your strengths and resources.

Emotion Blocking

 

 

The feeling of inner emptiness can hide, on the one hand, the inability to communicate with one’s feelings and emotions, and on the other hand, the lack of love, which was not enough in childhood, gave rise to emotional emptiness and strong feeling of loneliness.

Often traumas experienced in childhood lead a person to suppress emotions, forcing them to look for relationships where there is strong emotional activation. So falling in love or situations in which the partner can never be fully achieved generate strong feelings of jealousy for fear of being bored or

feelings of inner emptiness.

Emotional deficit that produces emotional emptiness

 

 

The

feeling of emptiness is also based on an emotional deficit, often associated with a mother who did not convey emotions in a functional way and was unable to contain the child's worries, creating internal discomfort in him. This then leads to the fact that the adult fills the inner emptiness with relationships in which the personality is not so important. On the contrary, when the relationship does not work out, due to misunderstanding, jealousy or continuous quarrels, it becomes difficult to leave, just so as not to feel empty inside.

In fact, only one thing can fill the inner void: love, which can come from both a partner and ourselves.

The desire to distract oneself in the presence of others gives rise to constant illusions-disappointments, which over time will lead to feeling useless, inadequate, unworthy of love, unimportant, selfish, wrong, up to

depressive states and fear of life. How to fill the feeling of emptiness in a healthy way

The ability to look inward and fill

an emotional void

with love for yourself, cultivate your own interests and space, can help you feel less lack of a loving person nearby and inner loneliness. An expression of disturbing emotions – a good way not to feel alone in a couple. In this case, a dialogue with loved ones will be useful. Or even a written statement of feelings in a diary can help to better understand the

feeling of inner emptiness

. When keeping records, it is worth noting: when sensations arise, time of day, with what people, associated emotions and their intensity, automatically arising thoughts.  

Meditation is useful for immersing yourself and exploring inner emptiness by slowing down thoughts and holding on to sensations that cause pain, to the point of gradually getting used to and accepting them . It is also useful for connecting the mind with the body and analyzing sensations in detail. Once we accept

sense of loneliness

and fill the void with new interests, we learn to be with someone not out of necessity or fear of being alone, but of our own free will.

Inner emptiness

- a feeling that can be a symptom of a psychological disorder, in which case, you need to seek help from a psychologist. However, if internal emptiness occurs from time to time, the methods presented in the article will help to cope with the problem. The main thing is to listen to yourself!

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